Some of your friends have graduated college. Some of your friends are on a fifth year. Some dropped out of college after their first semester.
Some of your friends are married. Some are engaged. And some are still spending their Friday’s on the dance floor.
Some of your friends have their dream job. Some are just trying to get by.
Some of your friends have kids and some still act like a kid.
Some of your friends are single and some of your friends got married at 22.
Welcome to your twenties.
It is period of your life where there’s no set plan. It is socially acceptable to be married and also socially acceptable to go clubbing. You suddenly never have to ask anyone’s permission to use the restroom. With all this freedom, comes stress and the questioning of… am I doing this thing right??
Your twenties can feel weird and that is because they are weird.
Your “adult years” have begun, yet you’re still confused about your identity. You’re old enough to know better but still young enough to think you can run away from the future.
It is easy to spend your twenties looking at your friends and peer and thinking I should be doing that.
I should be married.
I should be single.
I should be graduated.
I should be having kids.
I shouldn’t have kids.
I should have my dream job.
I should have enough money to go on at least one cruise.
But the beautiful thing about your twenties is there are no shoulds. You have freedom and free will. You don’t have to be in school studying a major you hate. You don’t have to be married and have kids. There are no rules. And despite what others may tell you, there is not one exact path made for everyone.
Stop comparing your life to someone else’s life.
You are not her. You are not him. You are not your friend, your peer, or the one couple you stalk on Instagram.
You are you. And the only thing you should be doing in your twenties is falling in love with your Creator and who He created you to be.
The world tells you your purpose is to chase the 401k, success, and a decent social life. But your purpose comes from your Creator. Your greatest calling is to live for your Creator and to appreciate who He created, a wonderful human being who has some flaws but has some great purpose.
The most beautiful thing about your twenties is you have the opportunity to fall in love with your path. Your handcrafted path given to you by your Creator.
Your path may not look like hers and your situation may not be his, but your path is yours. And God is leading you the where you were meant to be all along.
So to my fellow twenty-somethings: relax. Breathe in-and-out. Look at where your feet are planted. God got you this far for a reason. You are doing okay. You will be okay. Wake up each day and become eager to give your life to the One who breathed life into you. That is all you should be doing. You don’t have to chase perfection and the world’s standards for your twenties. Simply chase Jesus, strive to talk to Jesus, and strive to live for Jesus.
Close the dating app, take a nap, go to work, and look up. God hung every star and placed them right where they need to be. Why don’t you trust the one who hung the stars and painted to sea to place your life together? He knows what you should be doing. He knows where you are and where you will be. Let go of the independence you craved as a pre-teen and fall back into dependence on Him. You need Him. You should love Him. You should trust Him. And that’s the only should you should be doing.
Your twenties aren’t stressful if you know who holds your past, present, and future. Live for Jesus in your today, and trust Him with your tomorrow. And please remember your life is different. That is something to celebrate.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your path straight.”
Friend, my prayer is you and me can trust God with His plan. Our understanding does not make sense. If we lean on what makes sense to us and the expectations of our twenties—our path will not be straight. We will worry. We will experience disappointment. BUT- if we trust in the Lord and lean on His perfect understanding, we will experience joy in the unknown. If we obey His wishes and trust His will for our life, our path will be straight. Straight doesn’t mean easy, it just means it is taking us where we need to be and giving us the opportunity to feel Him and sense Him in our lives.
I have a book that recently came out called “Am I Enough?” and you can click here to find out more information. I pray it is real and relatable. My goal for this book was to create a book I needed when I struggled with insecurity. It discusses the idea of not feeling pretty enough, successful enough, wanted enough, Christian enough, and the struggle with drinking and perfectionism. If you get it let me know and message or tag me on Instagram @thegracevalentine is my Instagram name <3
photocreds: Lucy Macleish, photographer in Gainseville. Photo of Emma Kieffer, my friend in Gainseville (lol)