To the little girl who fell off her bicycle and is now crying… get back up. This is one of the first life lessons you will learn, but one you will never forget. You must always try again even after failure. Each fall only makes you stronger. And darling, you are going to be okay.

To the middle school girl crying because girls are mean…I wish I could say mean girls won’t always exist. However, that would be a lie. Mean girls sometimes become mean teenagers who become mean college girls who become mean mothers. You will learn the best revenge is no revenge. Having joy allows you to move on, and in return teach them about God’s grace. Their opinion means nothing. And every girl who is mean to you does so because she is insecure. Pray for her in return. Don’t let her words determine how you feel about yourself. Your worth comes from the Lord, not some teenager who sits at the “cool” table. And darling, you are going to be okay.

To the young woman who doesn’t know if she is “talking” to a guy or simply being used… walk away. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is run. Cry. Feel. Embrace the pain you feel. But trust God to write a better love story than the roller coaster you are on now. Closing a chapter does not mean your story is over. It just means a new scene can begin. And darling, you are going to be okay.

To the young woman who made a mistake… what happened happened, stop trying to go back and rewrite what has already been done. Use your past as a testimony. Hand your mistake over to Christ, the One who suffered on the cross so you could be forgiven. You are never “too dirty”, or “too messy” for Christ. He loves you and takes you as you are, and that includes the night you made your mistake. Allow God to use this valley to lead you to the mountain top. You are a child of the King of Kings. You are defined by your creator. You are not defined by what happened on the night you regret. Now set your eyes on God, learn from your mistake, and keep going. And darling, you are going to be okay.

To the woman of any age who stalks some other woman hoping to look like her and have her life you are beautiful. Close your Facebook. Close your Instagram. Look in the mirror and see your beauty. But you are not beautiful because you finally got Kylie Jenner’s lip kit, or because some boy commented the fire emoji on your bikini picture. You are beautiful because your Creator is beautiful and He created you in His image. However, when you get to the gates God won’t ask you if you are a size 0 or if you had curves in all the right places. He’s going to ask how you loved Him and how you loved others. He’s going to ask if you used your body to serve Him, not if your body was the hot topic of that hot fraternities groupme. Your life is made to be an offering to the One who gave everything so you may be forgiven. Your purpose is not to be attractive. You are beautiful— but not because of anything you have done. You are beautiful because of Christ. And darling, you are going to be okay.

(Also, stop stalking your ex’s new gf!! That does not help!!! Comparison is never comforting. Only Jesus can comfort..)

If someone told you being a woman was easy, I can promise you that is a bunch of crap.

Being a woman in this society is hard.

A lot of times our present circumstances stink.

We try our best and still fail, still get left on read, and still end up crying with our bff while eating a tub of Blue Bell Ice Cream… But guess what? You’re going to be okay.

You’re going to be okay, not because you’re a queen b who runs this world. You’re going to be okay because you, my friend, are loved by the Creator of this world. He hung the stars and painted the sea. Why are you so worried about life, when the One who created life is on your team?

Trust me. Today may stink. Like really stink. Like stink more than middle school. But when you are chasing Jesus, you are reminded He is working for your good. Your present failures don’t define you.

When you chase Jesus, you begin to embrace the everyday adventure of failure, success, heartbreak, and celebrations.

My prayer for the girl who is staring at her phone, computer screen, or tablet is that you embrace Jesus. Let go of your worries and set your mind on Him. Faith doesn’t mean you have to like your today, but it means you trust Him with your tomorrow.

Darling, you’ll be okay. Because the doors the Lord closes will lead you to where you were meant to be. The heartbreaks you feel will make you kinder and remind you that our first love, our Creator, is the only one who won’t break our heart. Your mistakes make you wiser when you ask God for grace. And God is on your team. He’s working for your good. His good may not be your good. His good may not be the frat guy, the “dream” job with the 401k, or the cool top-tier sorority.

But His good is the only good we need.

So let’s trust Jesus with our tomorrow and embrace that we will be more than okay if we trust Him today.  God never said this life would be easy, but he did say it would be worth it. Seek Him first and let Him, the author of life, write your story.

Romans 8:28
“and we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him… who have been called according to His purpose.”

Photocreds: Loren May Photography insta: @lorenmay

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. I usually read your blogs, but often times I find myself re-reading or stumbling upon posts that speak to me in my current state of mind. You are a blessing, and I truly appreciate you sharing your heart. This post is one that I needed tonight, it’s tough being a woman because we have to “live” up to societies standards when in all reality, we don’t have to do any of that. I just really enjoy the fact that your blogs are so relatable, it’s very helpful for me to realize that I’m not the only one going through these things.. so thank you again for sharing your heart, mind, and spirit with us. 🙂

  2. Thank you for admitting that life can be hard – even in the small things. I’m very encouraged by your willingness to call out our temptations to compare ourselves to other women across social media and seek comfort from things other than Jesus. I appreciate this so much!

  3. how do you do that? always write exactly what I need to hear at just the right time? every time I read one of your posts I just want to thank you over and over for using the gifts God has given you to touch so many lives. He uses you to bring peace into my heart. always. always at just the right time. so thank you, thank you, thank you!!

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