Someone probably clicked on this article thinking I was talking about sex…

NO, I am not teaching my future daughter to avoid abstinence….

What I pray I teach my daughter is not to wait…for tomorrow, for the future, for other people… 

I watch myself and other women wait all the time. It is a habit for many. We wait for the boy to make the first move. We wait for someone else to raise their hand first. We wait for permission from our partner to approve our desire to chase an old dream… We wait to stick up for the person in fear of being looked down upon… We wait to share the gospel because it may be “awkward” and not be “our place”…We wait to share our voice to the world in fear of what society may think…

We wait to do what feel called to do next year… We wait for the future because maybe then we will be happier…We wait to chase our dream because we fear maybe it won’t come true and maybe we will fail… And then we realize we spent our life waiting on someone else to change the world, someone else to share Jesus with that stranger, and someone else to be less fearful than us. 

Why do we spend our lives waiting instead of living?

If my future daughter is anything like me she’s going to love planning her future. She’ll love looking at college websites in high school, counting down the days till she can leave her suburban town and drive far far away. If she’s anything like me she’s going to get to college and when people ask her what she wants to be she might hesitate… waiting to share her dream in fear of someone saying, “yeah, that won’t happen…”

She’ll spend college waiting for adulthood…and probably will spend adulthood waiting on marriage, children, and the next phase in this journey we call life.

Life’s too short to wait. God has put us in the present for a divine reason… a reason that can build His Kingdom. Life is meant to be cherished and celebrated, not spent waiting on tomorrow. We are given voices for a reason. We are not meant to whisper our beliefs when God gives us the ability to shout. 

We are given the ability to wait. Wait and be a follower. Wait for tomorrow. Wait for the future to be better than the present.

But we are also given the ability to change the world and our lives by not waiting. By talking to the stranger, raising our hand first, and enjoying our present. I don’t want my daughter to sweat texting a boy first. I don’t want her to wait for college because hopefully “college will be better”.  I want her to wake up every day, thank God for giving her the present, and spend each 24-hours like it were her last.I want her to have intentional friendships, eat good pasta without fear of her dress next week, and text the dang boy and know if he doesn’t text back who freaking cares. She’s probably better than a guy who leaves her on read.

Because of the cross we are given the opportunity to be bold. The curtain has been torn and we get to live with the spirit inside us. We can climb mountains, talk to strangers, and dance in parking lots without fear of societies views defining us–because we know society is no judge of our worth. The cross defines us. Now, we get to chase dreams that lead to the ultimate destination– eternity with our sweet Jesus.

Now, we have the ability to not wait.

And I pray I don’t wait. God gives us gifts and talents that we can use for his glory. I believe the present is a beautiful gift of His giving. Through the present, we are given an opportunity to lead others to His name. Through the present, we are given the opportunity to change the world. Through the present, we are given moments…Moments that are happening now. Not tomorrow, now. And we must take this gift and bring glory to Him through it.

As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace. 1 Peter 4:10

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Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. Such beautiful thoughts and words! Amazingly crafted and drives your point home! I. Love. This. I’m such a planner and I hope that I can learn to stop waiting for other people, for things to happen and start making them happen. Thank you for this inspiration!!

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