“You just need to trust God…”

HA.

If you’re anything like me then you have a love/hate relationship with that phrase.

Because trusting God is all fun and games when you’re on Pinterest and see a cute quote about it with a picture of pretty waves.

It is totally believable when you’re surfing the web and your biggest is worry is which Bethel song you should listen to.

But then you grow up, you get dumped by the person you swore was the “one”, your fiancé always wants to pick a fight, you fail not just a test, but a class, you’re pretty sure your resume stinks and you are scared you’ll be homeless next year. Trusting God then becomes hard.

 

In the busyness of life in your twenties, it is so easy to spend your everyday worrying about what you should be doing. It is easy to get carried away with the details. We’re trying to make our resume perfect, get a cute date next weekend, enjoy our last years of college, and find a job for after graduation….. all while not gaining more than the normal 5 lbs that comes and goes based on your diet that week.

 

But then we forget. We forget to hangout with Jesus and suddenly are overwhelmed because life isn’t going the way we planned, and we can’t decide if God’s helping us or if Ashton Kutcher is about to come out saying, “you’ve been punk’ed, you’re life isn’t shambles.”

But the truth is our life is shambles. We are twenty-somethings… we aren’t supposed to know what’s going on. And anyone who pretends they know what’s going is lying. Yes, I promise– even your friend on Instagram who seems to always get the dream internship, puppy and date is secretly struggling too.

 

Being twenty-something is not easy.  No matter who you are, when you are twenty-something a lot of your “plans” become slammed doors.

However, if you’re like me, a little bit stressed and a whole lot confused about your “purpose,” remember these four things.

1. This was never meant to be your life.

So you believe in God right?

Your life was never meant to be about you. Your selfishness is sinful. Yes, have dreams but focus foremost on obeying God. Obedience is saying, “I know I have the option to make this life about me, but I don’t want to live that way. I want a life given to our Creator, the One who saved me.”

2. Hangout with Jesus. 

In the busyness of your twenties, it is easy to focus on your weekly agenda and forget to sit at the Lord’s feet. In those days when I’m overwhelmed and feel like I have so much to do, I recall this moment Martha and Mary had with Jesus.

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!’ ‘Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.’” Luke 10:38-42

So to my fellow Martha’s out there… in honest words–CHILL. You are worried about things that may be big, but your God is bigger. Sit at His feet. Take more time to hangout with Him. Only one thing is needed… and that is Him. Get to know the One who designed you before trying to figure out what you were designed for. Because then you’ll realize you main purpose here is to sit as His feet and tell others about Him. You’ll realize there’s more to life than making money and going on nice dates.

 

3. Your gifts are different than the person next to you. That’s not just okay… that’s great. Stop comparing yourself to others.

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” 1 Peter 4:10

This verse gets me GOING. I was never gifted in Biology. I wanted to be a doctor in jr. high school, because I thought to help people you had to be a doctor. However, now I am a public relations major, considering ministry, with a book coming out. Yeah, I didn’t see that coming either.

Maybe you thought your dream was to be a lawyer in order to help people, but you didn’t do too hot on the LSAT, even though you tried many times. I’m not saying give up on your dream. However, what I am asking you to do is to be observant to what God is teaching you through closed doors. Maybe, He is leading you to your ultimate purpose elsewhere.

Trusting God with your future means trusting Him with your career. Stop trying to write in your own plans.

4. God is working towards your good.

It is hard when you’re single, broke, confused, and not sure where you’ll be next year. It is even harder to be all these things and actually believe…”ya the One who knows how this ends, who is allowing this to happen, is working for my good.”

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

 

I can promise you, He is working toward your good. Trusting God means allowing His good to become your good. Trusting Him means letting go of your definitions of good. Good for you may be having a hot husband working in finance and having tiny Tina and baby Ben wear your school’s colors while playing with your beautiful golden retriever. However, God never said…”seek first the American dream.” NO. He said seek Him. Not wealth, a hot wife, or a job that pays 6-figures.

So to those who are in their twenties, confused, lonely, broke and wondering what they are doing for the rest of their life… relax. Work hard, but don’t forget to take time and sit at your Savior’s feet. Trust Him to use every heartbreak and closed door toward your good. And most importantly, breathe in-and-out. Your breath is a sign you are here for an eternal reason. Stop worrying and take time to embrace your everyday. Your metabolism may be slowing down, and your plans may be falling apart — but that is okay. Obedience isn’t easy. Trust isn’t always fun. But we trust in Him because He has never let us down and we know He will not ever let us down.

 

xoxo-grace valentine, your honorary bff

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Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.

4 comments

  1. God is definitely using your blog to accomplish His work! I pray that you will continue to praise Him with your work and that you will be comforted when it’s hard to remember how blessed you are and how important your work is.

  2. This is a perfect reminder of how fostering a relationship with God will always strengthen us in unforeseen ways. Like you, I also wanted to be a doctor, but I wasn’t very strong in my STEM classes. It was really hard for me to deal with at first, but then I worked on becoming closer with God and realized that maybe there was something even better, something that I’m good at, that I’m meant to do.

    Fostering that relationship with God also means having to develop a LOT of patience. I’ll give you an example. I didn’t have my first boyfriend until I was 21 years old, and before I got together with him, I had never been on a date, held a boy’s hand, or even had my first kiss. I remember that all throughout middle school, and all throughout high school, and through 3/4 of college, I wondered why nothing had ever worked out and why I was always still single. When I was a teenager and I saw all my friends date people, I always wondered if that year would finally be the year where I would date somebody. However, once I was about 19 or 20, as I felt convinced that I was going to be alone forever, I had a huge “aha” moment with God, in that I realized that all of my years of being single had strengthened my relationship with Him. I learned how to put God first, rather than a boy, I learned how to be independent, and I learned a lot about relationships after watching my friends go through good and dysfunctional ones themselves. As tough as it is to wait for things, know that these periods are you utilizing God’s work in progress. I doubt my first relationship would have gone too well if I had had it when I was much younger. Likewise, if I hadn’t changed my mind about being a doctor, I may not have discovered some of the other academic subjects that interest me.

    As tough as it is to wait, don’t forget to spend time with Jesus. As much as it doesn’t always feel like it, he is always at work! Awesome post!

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