Chances are, on Valentine’s Day you woke up to a bunch of Snapchat stories of teddy bears, chocolate and roses. You probably avoided that Italian restaurant everyone in your town goes to for good pasta because you knew the line would be long.

There’s a good chance your Instagram and Facebook feed is filled with:

“Thanks to this special man for making this Valentine’s Day the greatest…here’s to many more!”

Or the worst:

“I love you.”

Social media PDA is one thing, but when people publicly say those three words I freak. That escalated quickly…

But no, this post is not about me judging others, because I can’t understand what a relationship would be like. This is about something more than that. Something more important.

I overheard a boy at my local grocery store look at flowers and say, “Shoot I can’t remember if she likes roses or those pink things. If I mess up I’m screwed.”

He probably was joking… I sure hope so. Because if their relationship is rooted in love then it won’t matter if he got his girl roadside weeds for goodness sake. Love is not measured in the quality of flowers he buys.

And if I’m being real… I can’t picture our boy Jesus up there in Heaven sitting at the right hand of God saying, “man, they finally understood what I mean about love, when he sees a boy checking out flowers or a girl making chocolate covered strawberries.

I can’t picture God saying “SHE GETS IT GUYS” high-fiving Mary, as a girl fiercely types three paragraph caption about her love for her boy on her Instagram photo.

Love is worth more than cheesy captions, red roses and big teddy bears. It is worth more than an expensive dinner date for two at your favorite steak house. It is worth more than a fancy dress from your local boutique that over prices your clothes by 75 percent. It is worth more than your pedicure you get before your date to make sure you look your best.

I’m not here writing an article shaming those of you in cute relationships where you celebrate Valentine’s Day together through chocolate and bears. I’m not here to pity you single girls and do the cheesy “it is okay,” because I know it kinda sucks when everyone around you is in love and you’re just watching One Tree Hill praying for a season 6 Nathan Scott. I’m writing this because love is so much more.

Love was created the day God thought “I’ll send my own Son to save my children.” Love was created when a perfect man was stabbed to the tree. Love was created the day the stone was rolled and the tomb was empty.

Love is His name. No, not the cute boy in your math class who asks you for a pencil everyday and you swear you are going to marry. (Stop planning the wedding hashtag…) Love is not the box of chocolates you get from your crush. Love is your Maker, the Great I Am. He is your first love and your greatest love. What He gave you can’t be bought.

He loved you before the your boyfriend even noticed you. He loved you even when your significant other broke your heart. He loved you during that mistake you made at that party. He loved you when you gained the freshman 15. And He will love you tomorrow… and the day after that.

He doesn’t bring you chocolate. He brings you grace. He brings you purpose.

And one day (and for some of you that maybe the present), you will find someone who loves you like Christ. They’ve heard your most embarrassing story, and know your biggest mistake. They’ve seen you when you’re bloated and love you even though you talk in your sleep. But they see you and your flaws and love you.

Not just one day a year.

They love you consistently.

And when you find that- whether a significant other or a good friend, celebrate that. Celebrate that 365 days a year. When God called us to love He didn’t say “yeah buy them a stuffed bear.” He said, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

So let’s celebrate love today… and tomorrow… and on June 21st. Let’s celebrate love even when we feel lonely. Let’s remember love can’t be bought. Let’s remember that our First Love is our best love, and He should be our model. Let’s remember love is both a verb and a noun. Love is an action that requires work and energy, and also a tangible gift that can’t be earned.

“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” John 15:13

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Photocreds: — JACOB ALVES

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. Just found your blog and am so encouraged by your words! This is something that is so dear to my heart and I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts! Thank you again and God bless!

  2. Hey!
    This is so amazing! Would you mind if I borrowed some of your words for a small group I want to lead about love, relationships, and God?

    1. Yes!! You can share and print these words for them just don’t put them on another site or claim them 🙂 Tell them I said hi and I’m praying for their journey! Thank you for leading others and being a light sister

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