1. Stop making fun of girls’ bodies. You’re no Calvin Klein model and we are not Victoria’s Secret models.

    And this goes for talking about other girls…not just us.

  2. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.

    When pursuing a girl, seriously take things slow, but always show interest in her (and only her). The best girls are the ones that take the longest.

  3. A lot of girls say they are “not looking for a relationship”.

    That does not mean if the right guy comes along they will say no. These girls still would not pass down a great guy.

  4. Don’t ever tell a girl she looks tired.

    To girls, that means, “you look horrible and ugly; wow, I can tell you have no makeup on.”

  5. Cheaters never win.

    I should not even have to tell you this one. And if you do cheat, you can bet every one of her friends are out for you and will not touch you.

  6. We like pictures.

    We like Insta-ing them and claiming you as our own. We also like when you do the same thing. To us you posting a picture with us is your way of saying “hello other girls who follow me,  you are great but this girl is mine”. You don’t have to post a picture of us every Wednesday but one is nice.

  7. Be the kind of guy you would want your sister to date.

    You wouldn’t want a boy to treat your little sister like a piece of meat, so why would you treat other boy’s sisters that way? Every girl wants a guy who respects them cares for them. Every girl actually wants a guy whom respects all women.

  8. Nice guys do NOT finish last.

    Yes, we are attracted to the cliche bad boy players whom we think we can change, but at the end of the day, every girl genuinely wants a guy who is her best friend, makes her laugh, treats her well, and keeps all his promises. Every girl wants to date a nice guy, I promise.

  9. Porn can kill a relationship.

    To be honest, we don’t know how hard it is to be a boy. We don’t know your hormones or your temptations. But knowing you watch girls we could never compete with hurts us. We are already insecure and you watching porn hurts us even more.

  10. I pray you don’t put me first.

    If you make me your world, I will fail. I don’t desire to be your foundation. I will never be able to satisfy you fully. Only the One who created your heart will ever be able to fully satisfy you. Put Him first.

  11. You don’t have to pay every time.

    We are all broke and we know it. It doesn’t make you less of a man to say you can’t pay for us. Allow us to treat you from time to time.

  12. Challenge us to grow in our relationship with Christ.

    Just like I don’t want you to put me first, I pray I never put you first. Remind me that you are not God, and I need a personal relationship with God before I can love you in a way that is pleasing to our Creator.

  13. We will get uglier.

    We will get wrinkles and maybe a little more belly-fat. And so will you. If you are in this for the long haul then make sure you love us for our personality.

  14. Play with children.

    It is adorable to see a guy playing with a kid. Dad material.

  15. “Talking” is not a label.

    I get it, that’s how we describe nowadays the awkward “idk what we are but we’re best friends on snapchat and hangout one-on-one from time to time”. However, no girl likes this stage and it is simply a pit-stop not a destination. Be a man and pursue us.

  16. If we have a sibling, you have to have their approval.

    No questions asked.

  17. If a girl has no girl friends, that’s usually a bad sign.

    Waiting for the day you actually learn this point.

  18. Most of us are 100% over games.

    Just be straight up, it makes things easy.

  19. Not all girls are the same.

    You always tell us not all guys are the same, well the same goes for girls. Not all girls want gossip, drama and to be high-maintenance. Be smart enough to know the difference.

  20. Most of us have been hurt before.

    We struggle to trust because there was a guy who once said the same things you are saying who woke up one day and decided to treat us like garbage. We’ve been hurt. We are not broken; however, and don’t give up on us. We just need time to prove you mean what you say.

  21. It is hard to be the good girl.

    In a world that admires girls who “put out” it is hard for us to be waiting. In a world where purity is seen as prude, it is hard to wait. But the ones who wait are worth the wait. Stop settling for the girls who are easy to get and appreciate the ones who are waiting and doing their best in a world of temptation to look to Jesus.

  22. Have The LORDS’s eyes.

    Your eyes need to look for the good in others and not on things of the world.

  23. Use your hands and feet to serve the LORD.

    Go where the Lord tells you to go, not where I tell you to go.

  24. Dating is meant for marriage. It doesn’t make us “crazy” for seeing if our lives will in the future line up.

    Just because we go on one date with you also doesn’t mean we are already planning the wedding. Stop reading into things.

  25. If you are my ex, stop trying to come back into my life.

    You are my ex for a reason and I wish you the best; however, it didn’t work out for a reason.

  26. If you cannot figure out what to get a girl for a present, just plan a fun and personal date.

    That tops any price tag. Every girl simply prays for someone who looks like Jesus and makes watching reruns of Shark Tank while drinking cheap wine feel as adventurous and romantic as a picnic under the Eiffel Tower with expensive champagne.

  27. You can’t fully love us without loving our Creator.

  28. Your dad’s money is not your money.

    Stop bragging about your daddy’s money that you didn’t earn. Growing up privileged is a blessing, not something to brag about.

  29. Tell a girl she’s beautiful she’ll believe you for a second. Tell a girl she’s ugly she’ll remember that for the rest of her life.

    I still remember the boys who in eighth grade made fun of me for the way I look. Every girl is insecure. Your words should not matter to her, but they do. Be careful what you say to any girl.

  30. Admit it, you have feelings.

    Stop trying to be so “masculine” that you don’t want to admit you have feelings, whether you’re sad or simply have a crush. Feelings are normal, even for men.

  31. At the end of the day, at least in my opinion, the guy I fall in love with needs to look like Jesus.

    What I want to see looking back at me on my wedding day is a guy whose arms are always reach out to help others, not necessarily the ones always lifting at the gym. His legs will go where the Lord tells him to go — they may not always be perfectly toned. His eyes look for the good in others and not on things of the world. His heart should be compassionate and loving to all people, not just me. And his mouth should speak kind words and life into everyone he encounters, never used for destruction. He should admire my desire for purity, and seek it himself as well till marriage. He should push me closer to Christ, instead of coming in between God and me.

To all the guys reading this: it is hard to be a guy in this world. The world tells you that all girls want a bad boy, your worth is judged in how much you lift, and your purpose is to hook-up with girls. However, be different. In a world full of boys, be a man. Be the kind of guy who girls picture growing old with. Be the kind of guy who girls want their sons to become. Be more than a guy who hooks-up with a bunch of girls and talks down on them during his “glory years”. Your words hold importance and you have a chance to lead others to Christ, if you allow God to reside in your soul each morning.

And to the girls reading this: stop settling. And stop allowing what dumb boys who don’t know your Creator think about you to determine your worth. Your worth comes from your Creator not a boy. Just like some girls stink, some boys stink–but there is a reason for that. They are insecure. They are struggling.

God created Eve and God created Adam. We are meant to be unified. Although some of these tips may be fun, I pray you mainly never forget the importance we have to love our brothers and sisters in this world.

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.

5 comments

  1. Grace,
    I started reading your posts around March of this year, and I have read all of them 🙂 They mean so much to me, and I love having these on top of my quiet times with God to truly encourage my growth and push me further along in my relationship with Christ. Thank you for the faithful friend you have been to me even though we have never met! (Haha, it sure feels like we have!) Also, this article is especially great. Even though it’s kinda “for boys”, it was a huge encouragement for me to read. THANK YOU. Also, do you mind sending this to every guy I know? 😉

    Jenna

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