There’s a few things I don’t like. I don’t enjoy mean girls or when I get a parking ticket at school. I don’t enjoy watching my friends cry and I don’t enjoy the feeling of pulling up to Chick-fil-A and realizing that it’s a Sunday.

However, what I hate most is when life doesn’t go my way.

When I didn’t get a Barbie Jeep for Christmas at 10 years old, I was mad. When my brother got the razor flip phone and I didn’t, I was pretty upset. When I found myself crying over heartbreak, I was devastated. When I failed my first test in college I spent 72 hours studying for, I was not happy to say the least. When I felt God wasn’t answering my prayers, I was frustrated.

There are many times in my life when my life didn’t go my way. No one plans for failures, mistakes, regrets or heartbreak. No one plans on spending their night crying in the bathroom over a boy. No one plans on having to drop a class or having to say goodbye to a friend. No one plans for life to not go their way.

But everyone gets to a point in their life where they realize they are not in control.But if there is one thing I’ve learned in my life, it is that failure reminds us we are not God. When life doesn’t go our way, we are reminded that we are not God. We do not hold the power. And no matter how organized our Kate Spade planner may be, we do not know what will happen tomorrow or next week or five years from now.

You are not God, so stop trying to be. Stop trying to hold the power and understanding of why things happen. Focus on dancing with the Lord and following the lead of Him instead of following your 10-year career plan. Focus on beholding the eyes of your maker, instead or trying to be Him.

Yeah, life hasn’t always gone my way and I’m not your picture perfect image of someone who, as many Christian Tumblr accounts say, continually “lets go and lets God!!!” But maybe, (as cheesy as it sounds) I need to try to work on what my good friend Carrie Underwood once said, letting Jesus take the wheel.

Trial produces strength and some of the best blessings come from hard lessons.I never sat at the cool table in middle school, but I graduated high school befriending all the different groups and knowing everyone in my class. God not answering my silly prayer in middle school allowed me to grow in kindness.

I never did get that boy in high school to stay, but being 650 miles away from him I could care less. God saying no to the boy I cried over, allowed me to fall back in love with my first love (Jesus Christ).

When I thought I was going to be a doctor and then lawyer, but neither worked out, God allowed me to pursue my love for writing. Now I write my own blog that is at 3.9 million views and counting, with a book coming out in 2018.

When I sat on the scale and cried, and went through every possible way to lose weight even if it meant destroying my body, I thought I would never be able to look in the mirror and smile. Now, I have shared my story with others, and can look in the mirror and know my worth does not come from if I’m a 0 or if I have a six-pack. I learned my worth comes from my Creator.

When my friend died from a long-term battle with cancer, I never saw the good in that goodbye. Now, although I still struggle with the pain and loss, I know I have a guardian angel looking over me daily.

When I made that mistake in college, God allowed me to learn more about how beautiful His grace is.

When I was bullied and heartbroken and wanted to end all the pain of middle school and high school, I never thought there was a purpose for my pain. I was mad at God, but now I see the Lord was preparing me for something greater than dating the boy on the football team or having the popular boys think I was pretty. The Lord created someone strong and someone dependent on Him. The Lord created someone who, although imperfect, knows her worth comes from her Creator.

The point of this article isn’t meant for me to spill all the worst moments of my life. The point of this article is that hopefully you can see that there is something so comforting about an all-knowing King being in charge of your life. He is in control, whether you like it or not. The question is are you going to pout because life didn’t go your way, or are you going to dance with God and follow His lead? Will you let your feet glide to where His are step-by-step? Will you take His hand and adventure into creating a beautiful, yet sometimes hard sequence that makes others around you stop and stare, noticing how beautiful you are when you follow His lead?

Life stinks. You are going to fail a test and your heart will get broken. You are going to make mistakes and you are going to drive to Chick-fil-A on a Sunday from time to time. However, if you dance with Christ, you won’t suddenly cry when life doesn’t go your way and you don’t get the Barbie Jeep. When you dance with Christ you will be able to look at your life and think, “no matter what my circumstances are, He is still good.”

When you dance with Christ there will be joy in your trials. Although the pain may not disappear and the flames may smother you, you know this world is not the end. You know His goodness comes from who He is and not the circumstances of your present.

Read this story from a great book:

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to him, “King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand. But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.”
Daniel 3:16-18

But even if God does not remove your flame, I pray you have the same thoughts Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego had when the King was getting ready to throw them in the furnace for not worshiping the gold statue or false Gods. I pray you worship Christ even when the flame does consume you. I pray you realize that although you do serve a God who saves you everyday, if he allows you to experience pain it is for a reason and He is still good.(However, spoiler alert – Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego actually do not get consumed by the flames because God saves them).

So here’s to a God who is way wiser than we will ever be. He turns our trials into our testimony and our valleys lead to mountaintops.

So when life doesn’t go your way, remember that He is still good and your temporary pain serves an eternal purpose. Take God’s hand and dance with Him during your trials. Follow His lead and not your plan. In doing so, I promise He will create something even more beautiful than you could ever have planned. Your temporary pain is just a pit stop leading you to eternal joy. Trust Him. Dance with Him and follow His step.  

James 1:2-4“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

Photocreds: Olivia Wright

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. my daughter who also loves writing….gave me your link
    Thank you.
    It doesn’t matter how old you are….we girls feel it and we share being a christian woman of God.
    I am touched and challenged by your words, as we should be each day. Bless you as you keep Him as the Love of your life!!! mom from Alaska 🙂

  2. Grace,

    This was beautifully written. I’m so thankful that I stumbled across this blog because everytime I read it, I fall more and more in love with Jesus. Your love, relentless faith, and all powerful spirit inspires me.

    “You carry us, Carry us, When the world gives way, You cover us, Cover us, With Your endless grace, Your love is relentless” -Relentless by: Hillsong United


  3. Grace,
    Thank you so much for this! This was at a time when I really needed it. He really does work in amazing ways. Sometimes in life you go through the hardest things and at those times you just feel like you want to give up but with Jesus and this article it gives me so much more hope. This article showed me that there’s always something good to come out of it. You’re right when life doesn’t always go your way it is because he has a plan and he has joy coming out of it. Thank you. 🙂

  4. I stumbled across your blog one day on facebook, and I have loved it ever since! I have the link saved on a note on my laptop (I check for new posts weekly), and I started writing my own blog because I was so inspired by yours!

    I needed this blog more than anything today. I don’t know you, but you have such a beautiful heart and soul, and I hope you never lose your love of writing. I can’t wait to read your book when it comes out 🙂 Thank you for always sharing your love for Jesus!

  5. Grace,

    I absolutely love this. This is just what I needed to hear. Many things are going on in my life- between family, school, and just life in general. It is so nice to hear these comforting words of truth, Jesus is my rock, my refuge, and strength. I’ve learned to lean on him, and I’ve learned that he is bigger than any circumstance presented to me.

    Thanks again Grace, I look forward to reading the next one and most definitely purchasing your book in 2018💖💖💖💖

  6. Grace,

    Your writing is absolutely beautiful. I always look forward to reading your blog posts. I graduated from Baylor in May and wish I found your blog before then so I could’ve reached out and gotten to know you. Your heart is so full for Christ and it is so inspiring – keep up the beautiful work!

    1. Lauren congrats on graduating!!! So jealous during midterm season ahah! I wish we could have met but know you are doing great things! Thanks for your sweet encouragement God bless <3

  7. Grace,

    I bumped into your blog and it is so amazing! I am blessed to find your blog, thank God! We have things in common referred to the bad experience we had (e.g. bullied). Your belief is so strong and I admire that! I also have a strong belief and am fascinated of how you can find the words that I can’t express. I am very excited for your coming book will be released in 2018! I am looking forward to many more articles in your blog because you INSPIRE.

    Thank you! :-* God bless you!


    1. Loanica this was so sweet and made my day. You are very encouraging and I’m glad the Lord brought our stories together <3 I pray you find peace and God's purpose even in your trials. And I can't wait for you to read the book as well <3 God bless new friend!

  8. It’s so nice to read a blog I can 100% relate to. You motivate me so much and I think you’re so amazing and honest! You have helped me so much when I’ve been struggling with my faith trying to do things my own way!
    I keep you in my prayers
    Thank you x

  9. I’m glad you didn’t become a lawyer or a doctor because I cant describe how much this article impacted me. Thank you for sharing the words God put on your heart. 🙂

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