To the little girl who fell off her bicycle and is now crying… get back up. This is one of the first life lessons you will learn, but one you will never forget. You must always try again even after failure. Each fall only makes you stronger.
To the thirteen year old girl crying because girls are mean…I wish I could say mean girls won’t always exist. However, that would be a lie. Mean girls sometimes become mean teenagers who become mean college girls who become mean mommies. You will learn the best revenge is to kill them with kindness. Having joy is the best revenge. Their opinion means nothing. And every girl who is mean to you does so because she is insecure. Don’t let her words determine how you feel about yourself. Your worth comes from the Lord, not some teenager who sits at the “cool” table.
To the teenage girl in the bathroom crying over a boy... stop it. If he broke your heart, he never deserved it. Don’t try to fix your broken heart with temporary band-aids that only make it worse. Another boy can’t put the pieces back together, and even a Friday night out with friends. The only one who can fix a broken heart is the One who created it. Cry to the Lord, the Ultimate Healer.
To the teenage girl who thinks she has to go further with the cute boy… you don’t. Innocence is beautiful and nothing to be ashamed of. If he is the One you will marry, you will have plenty of time to do everything you want to do. Until then, make sure he loves you for your heart, not your body. Grow in friendship. Stop rushing the process. You shouldn’t feel guilty for not giving him what he wants.
To the young woman who made a mistake… what happened happened, stop trying to go back and rewrite what has already been done. Use your past as a testimony. Hand your mistake over to Christ, the One who suffered on the cross so you could be forgiven. You are never “too dirty”, or “too messy” for Christ. He loves you and takes you as you are, and that includes the night you made your mistake. Allow God to use this valley to lead you to the mountain top. You are a child of the King of Kings. You are defined by your creator. You are not defined by what happened on the night you regret. Now set your eyes on God, learn from your mistake and keep going.
To the young girl who cries when looking in the mirror… you are beautiful. But you are not beautiful because you finally got Kylie Jenner’s lip kit, or because some boy commented the fire emoji on your bikini picture. You are beautiful because your creator is beautiful and He created you in His image. However, when you get to the gates God won’t ask you if you are a size 0 or if you had curves in all the right places. He’s going to ask how you loved Him and how you loved others He’s going to ask if you used your body to serve Him, not if yours body was the hot topic of that hot fraternities groupme. Your life is made to be an offering to the One who gave everything so you may be forgiven. Your purpose is not be attractive. You are beautiful but not because of anything you have done. You are beautiful because of Christ.
I want every girl reading this to read this passage:
“12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”–Philippians 3:12-14
The man who wrote this was Paul. He used to be Saul, a man who persecuted Christians, but when he wrote his letters to the Philippians he was a changed man now going by Paul, who was in jail as he wrote those words for the work he did for Christ. I want to remind every woman and girl reading this to keep pressing on. Press on towards loving your father, stop pressing on to look good in a bikini. Press on towards bringing the Kingdom of God to this lost Earth, stop pressing on towards trying to please that mean girl. Stop looking back at your mistakes and look forward to what God is calling you to do in your present. Your life is meant for something greater than getting 200 likes on an insta, and its meant for someone better that a cute football player.
So ladies, here’s to all the emotions we face growing up. Here’s to our heartbreaks and our failures. Here’s to our pimples and the girls who just don’t like us. Let’s focus on pleasing God not the world. Let’s focus on resting in Christ’s truth, not the lies the world feeds us.
Life is hard being a girl. But to every girl reading this, you are loved and worthy. Never forget that. Now let’s get back on the bike, smile big and press on.