Hey darling, you should go back to your first love.

And no, I’m not talking about that douchey boyfriend you had in high school who treated you like garbage. I’m not talking about the guy from your first kiss in jr. high who you chatted with on AIM but never actually had a real conversation with.

“Hey, wanna play 20 questions?” NO. Not him.

I’m not talking about the first boy who gave you butterflies or the guy who made you do that annoying giggle.

I’m talking about your actual first love.

Are you confused? Yeah, I used to be as well.

About two months ago I sat across at an ice cream shop from my dear friend Sarah Berlinsky. I did the typical girl friend thing to do and asked if there were any boys, crushes, or cute male specimen in her life. However, she laughed and told me she was trying to reconnect more with her first love.

I was confused. I hated that guy she dated in high school. But Sarah went on, and talked about her first love as one who sacrificed everything for her. He put her first, and loved her more than Kanye loves Kanye. He pursued her each morning and never failed to bring her joy.

Sarah was talking about the Lord and at first I laughed at how cheesy that was to think about. Haha classic Christian girl, I’m being “pursued by Christ first,” brb, let me go get my coffee and cute calligraphy and wear Anthropology as I pray to the King of Kings.

It is cheesy because it sounds too cool to be true.

This love sounds way out of our league.

There’s no way we could score someone that consistent.

But it is the truth.

See, while we are chasing temporary loves from the world, Jesus has his arms stretched out for us to be nailed to the cross so we may have eternal freedom. While we are so fixated on finding a love from this world, Jesus is pouring out His love for us.

So here’s to the girl who is still hung up on an ex-boyfriend. Here’s to the girls so fixated on being in a relationship. Here’s to every girl; go back to your first love. Let Him pursue you. Even if you never fell for Him, He fell for you before you were even born.

He fell for you. He fell for you with His arms opened-wide and hands nailed to the cross. He fell for you in a reckless way. He fell for you in a way no man has ever fallen for you, or will ever fall for you.

See, one day you will fall for a man who will show you that two is better than one. You will fall for a man who will show you what community looks like. He will push you to be a better disciple and friend. He will push you to grow in your faith each morning.

He won’t cheat on you or make you feel like garbage. He will love you.

But please do not look at him on your wedding day and say you are my first love. Please do not go through your Instagram and show your college BFF a picture of your “first love” aka the first guy you dated.

Your first love needs to be Christ. You will not be able to love without knowing the author of love itself.

Growing up I just now realized, I always had crushes on jerks. I was searching for love in all the wrong places. And although I did go to church, I wasn’t allowing myself to be fully 100% pursued by my first love, Christ. Therefore, because I didn’t allow myself to first fall head-over-heels for the King of Kings, I was falling head-over-heals for a bunch of John Tuckers from John Tucker Must Die.

God wants you and is chasing after you at this very moment. Lock eyes with your Maker, and let Him dance with you to new heights. Follow His step-after-step in such a gentle and joyful way that others can’t help but notice. Grab His hand and prepare for a love story greater than any Nicholas Sparks book.

So I’m getting back with my first love. This school year is going to be about me falling more in love with my maker. This year is about me dancing with Him. Will I ever find a second love and a man? Oh goodness, I hope so. But right now, God is pursuing me. And I’m pursuing Him.

And when it is time for a man, I pray He will be able to talk so vividly about his first love that I feel God’s presence in a new way, by just being in his presence.

God will always be my first love, and He will always be your first love, even if you are doubting or do not even believe. He loves you. And nothing can separate you from this love.

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36 As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”  Romans 8:31-39

 PHOTOCREDS: Abhisek Magan, Citro Media Co. instagram, @abhishackdaddy

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. Grace, I’ve been reading your posts for a while now (I’m pretty sure I’ve actually read all of them!) and I especially needed this reminder. Recently I’ve been coming to love and know God better than I ever have before, and it’s absolutely incredible. But it’s so hard sometimes, and this reminder of God as our only true true love is something I really needed today. Thank you so much, I am encouraged all the time by the way Jesus speaks through you!!! Love this!

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