I remember being in middle school dealing with mean girls. I was told it would get better as I grew up. But truth is I’ve learned mean girls exist in many different parts of your life.

They exist in the playgrounds of elementary schools, at the bus stops of middle schools, in the hallways of high schools, on each college campus and probably even in the PTA meetings with parents.

And now the world is on its feet watching the Kimye and Taylor Swift drama. I am interested in it, because drama is apparently fun. It seems appealing, just like many things from the world. Just like the tree of knowledge of good and evil seemed appealing to Adam and Eve. 

But that is a lie. Drama is not fun and being mean is not rewarding.

Mean girls are everywhere and in every season. For some reason girls are tempted to put others down in order to increase their own self-esteem. For some reason girls feel like they can validate their own self-worth by putting other girls down.

We live in a society that already puts down girls, for goodness sack girls who mean gold medals don’t even get credit for their work– some man does.

We live in a society that tells girls they need to look a certain way to be worthy of attention and love.

We live in a society that pays women less for doing the same job as a man.

We live in a society that puts deceiving pictures in magazines, telling girls they need to be unrealistic measurements in order to be attractive.

We live in a society that says being attractive is the most important characteristic for a woman. That her job is to please a man.

And yet, girls who know just how hard it is to be a girl continually put down other girls.

As women, we need to stand together and love each other the way the Lord loves us. We need to be a reflection of the acceptance we have from the Lord.

Life is meant for moments like dance parties and life talks at 2 a.m. Life is meant to be enjoyed because the One who breathed life into you calls you His daughter. Life is not meant to be about twitter wars, Kimye Swift drama and wondering how you can lower someone else’s worth to build yourself up.

To the girls reading this who have ever experienced a mean girl: I’m sorry. You are a daughter of the King of Kings and the Prince of Peace. You deserve friendships that make you laugh so hard you pee your pants. You are loved by a perfect God; therefore, you should be loved by fellow imperfect people.

To the mean girls reading this: God loves you and the girl you don’t like. He loves y’all the same. Love because He loved you first. And I promise life is more fun not being a mean girl.

So you can decide to wake up tomorrow morning and love because Christ gave His Son so you can be free, or you can be mean. One gives you joy and the other just doesn’t seem to be fun. 

John 13:34-35 “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. Thanks for sharing! Mean Girls is often known as a funny movie, but mean girls really do exist (and it’s not funny!). I loved how you included verses and basic life truths. And the swimsuits in your featured photo are super cute!

  2. Hey grace,
    I was a creek at camp! I have dealt with mean girls at school sometimes! I admit I might be mean to my siblings, but thanks for sharing mean girls are not fun! Nice loving girls are fun!
    ~bayley Melton

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