Remember poor Gordo?
The curly-haired, kinda nerdy guy from everyone’s favorite show, Lizzie McGuire. The one who was always friend-zoned by Lizzie. The one who was consistent, loyal and always there to encourage Lizzie. Lizzie always chased other boys like Ethan Craft, but Gordo waited patiently for Lizzie to want him.
Here’s a clip if you forgot:
Poor Gordo. Friend-zoned. There’s no worse feeling than being friend-zoned. I mean, am I right or am I right? He was always there for Lizzie, yet she only wanted to be friends with him. She did not want anything more from Gordo.
Why do we treat God like Gordo?
As odd as this may sound but this reminds me of a certain scripture:
“Simon, son of John, do you agape Me more than these?” He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love phileo You.” He said to him, “Tend My lambs.” He said to him again a second time, “Simon, son of John, do you agape Me?” He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love phileo You.” He said to him, “Shepherd My sheep.” He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you phileo Me?” Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, “Do you phileo Me?” And he said to Him, “Lord, You know all things; You know that I love phileo You.” John 21: 15-17
Here’s a quick translation of what the meanings of agape versus phileo mean:
Phileo is a brotherly, friendship type of love.
Agape is an unconditional kind of love. It is the highest form of love. A love that provokes change.
Jesus asked Peter three times if he loved Him because soon after this account, he denied even knowing Him.
Jesus asked Peter if he loved him unconditionally, and Peter continually responded with the fact he loved Him like a brother.
Peter friend-zoned Jesus during this passage. He loved Him, but He didn’t love Him more than anything else. And after this passage, He even denied knowing Him. He even denied phileoing Him which is why Jesus continued to question.
So many times we are like Peter in this passage.
I mean yeah we know of God; but do we actually know Him. Do we communicate with Him daily? Do we know His personality, what He loves, His past and His future? Or do we simply kinda talk to Him when we need Him?
Yes, He is there when we need Him, sorta how Gordo was always there for Lizzie. But when something from the world comes in our life, do we worship that more than God? Sorta how Lizzie used to ditch Gordo for Ethan Craft. I mean I’d be lying if I said I never left God hanging for a cute boy with good hair.
My question for you this morning is do you agape Jesus or phileo Him. Do you love Him as a friend, or hold the highest form of love for Him that provokes change? Have you denied Him like Peter did after this passage? Will you also be like Peter and later be willing to give your whole future for the Lord’s Kingdom, even risking death for His glory?
Stop friend-zoning Jesus. Stop ignoring His desires to pursue you. Stop chasing the world, and leaving Jesus there broken-hearted. He cares for you, wants to live each day in relationship with you, and desires for your life to show your love for Him. He wants you to agape Him.
We think Nicholas Sparks writes the best love story, when in reality, the best love story happened on the cross 2000 years ago. We keep waiting for things of this world to pursue us and make us happy, when Jesus is patiently waiting for us to run into His arms and let Him pursue us.
Peter is now part of the reason you and I know about Jesus. He helped spread the gospel and later was hung to a cross himself for the work he did for the Kingdom. In the end, He stood by the Lord and agaped Him, even when persecuted. That is the kind of love we need in our hearts.
God created us with free-will to love and feel empathy. He created us with a desire to feel pursued. He created us with the ability to see the world, but also with the ability to see Him. Turn your eyes upon Him– the One and Only, the Great I Am. The One who can satisfy your desires to feel loved. The One who agapes you. And stop friend-zoning Him. Accept Him daily. Despite your imperfections, He loves you, desires you, and is calling out to you this very minute to take Him out the friend-zone. Stop knowing about Him but not knowing Him. Stop liking Him, and not loving Him. Stop phileoing Him but not agaping Him. He wants more and you need more.
He is enough. Jesus is all you need. You don’t need Ethan Craft when you are dancing with the King of Kings. You don’t need anything from the world when you are in relationship with the Great I Am.