Being a girl is hard.
We want to feel wanted.
We want to feel worthy of someone’s love.
We care more about what a boy thinks of us than what the King of Kings thinks of us.
So we do this thing called settling. We settle for a mediocre or sometimes even awful guy because we fear being alone. We let guys walk over us constantly because we think that our worth comes from them.
Frankly, I’m over this. I’ve seen way too many girls let how a guy views them depict their self-value. I’ve seen myself care way too much over one boy. I’ve seen girls give their hearts away time after time because they think having a boy want them makes them beautiful. I’ve seen girls crave affection and validation from boys.
Newsflash girls: you were beautiful before he told you.
Maybe you have had a billion guys tell you you are beautiful, but still treat you like you were worthless. Maybe you have never had a boy tell you that you were beautiful, and you desperately feel like you need a boy’s affirmation. Maybe you have had one boy tell you are beautiful, but he left, and now you feel as if you are not beautiful.
In all honesty, you aren’t beautiful because you finally hit 200 likes on your Instagram picture. You are not beautiful because you had 500 people view your video. You are not beautiful because the cute boy commented the fire emoji on your beach picture. You are not beautiful because the boy who lifts slid in your DMs. You are not beautiful because your boyfriend tells you you are.
You are beautiful because the One who created you is the best artist there ever was or will be. You are beautiful because you were created in the image of the King of Kings and Prince of Peace.
You were beautiful before he told you.
You heart was mended even before the boy broke your heart.
You are loved and pursued daily by the author of love.
You are wanted by someone who will always want you.
As girls, we need to stop finding our worth in guys. Their opinion does not determine our worth. Their opinion on our body, our hair and our face means nothing when we have affirmation from the one who designed the mountains and painted the sea.
I see girls all the time crying in the bathroom over a boy who broke their heart. I have cried in the bathroom over a boy who broke my heart. I remember my first heartbreak in high school, crying over a boy who once called me beautiful. Suddenly, I didn’t feel beautiful anymore. I had been finding my worth in him and not from the one who hand-crafted me. I had built my house on an unstable land, when I should have build my house on the rock.
I was finding my worth in a boy who simply changed his mind, when I should have found my worth in the one who gives me mercies everyday.
I guess what I’m trying to get across is that you are beautiful because you were created in God’s image. No if, ands, or buts. It is simple. You are beautiful because of your creator. You are beautiful because you have been forgiven. You are beautiful because the One who created the mountains, the beaches, and the sound rain makes on a tin roof created you. He loves you more than Kanye loves Kanye, and more than a woman loves chocolate.
God desperately wants you to look in the mirror and praise Him because you are fearfully and wonderfully made. He doesn’t want you to find your worth in getting a text back or having a cute boyfriend. Your worth comes from your artist. And you know what? He carved the mountains, hung the stars, and painted the sea. He created sunflowers, puppies and coffee. And He still loves us more.
You were beautiful before he told you. So stop letting one boy determine how worthy you feel. You are worthy not because of who you are, how many likes you get, or how many boys like you. You are worthy because of whose you are. And whether you like it or not you are a child of God– and that is something to celebrate.
Luke 6:46-49 “Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you? Everyone who comes to me and hears my words and does them, I will show you what he is like: he is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when a flood arose, the stream broke against that house and could not shake it, because it had been well built.But the one who hears and does not do them is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. When the stream broke against it, immediately it fell, and the ruin of that house was great.”
Today, I challenge you to build your life on the one constant we have in this crazy life. Build your life and your worth on what Christ thinks of you, not what a boy thinks or the amount of likes you get. When you do this you will have joy even in the hardest trials.