Being a girl is hard.

We want to feel wanted.

We want to feel worthy of someone’s love.

We care more about what a boy thinks of us than what the King of Kings thinks of us.

So we do this thing called settling. We settle for a mediocre or sometimes even awful guy because we fear being alone. We let guys walk over us constantly because we think that our worth comes from them.

Frankly, I’m over this. I’ve seen way too many girls let how a guy views them depict their self-value. I’ve seen myself care way too much over one boy. I’ve seen girls give their hearts away time after time because they think having a boy want them makes them beautiful. I’ve seen girls crave affection and validation from boys.

Newsflash girls: you were beautiful before he told you.

Maybe you have had a billion guys tell you you are beautiful, but still treat you like you were worthless. Maybe you have never had a boy tell you that you were beautiful, and you desperately feel like you need a boy’s affirmation. Maybe you have had one boy tell you are beautiful, but he left, and now you feel as if you are not beautiful.

In all honesty, you aren’t beautiful because you finally hit 200 likes on your Instagram picture. You are not beautiful because you had 500 people view your video. You are not beautiful because the cute boy commented the fire emoji on your beach picture. You are not beautiful because the boy who lifts slid in your DMs. You are not beautiful because your boyfriend tells you you are.

You are beautiful because the One who created you is the best artist there ever was or will be. You are beautiful because you were created in the image of the King of Kings and Prince of Peace.

You were beautiful before he told you.

You heart was mended even before the boy broke your heart. 

You are loved and pursued daily by the author of love. 

You are wanted by someone who will always want you.

As girls, we need to stop finding our worth in guys. Their opinion does not determine our worth. Their opinion on our body, our hair and our face means nothing when we have affirmation from the one who designed the mountains and painted the sea.

I see girls all the time crying in the bathroom over a boy who broke their heart. I have cried in the bathroom over a boy who broke my heart. I remember my first heartbreak in high school, crying over a boy who once called me beautiful. Suddenly, I didn’t feel beautiful anymore. I had been finding my worth in him and not from the one who hand-crafted me. I had built my house on an unstable land, when I should have build my house on the rock.

I was finding my worth in a boy who simply changed his mind, when I should have found my worth in the one who gives me mercies everyday.

I guess what I’m trying to get across is that you are beautiful because you were created in God’s image. No if, ands, or buts. It is simple. You are beautiful because of your creator. You are beautiful because you have been forgiven. You are beautiful because the One who created the mountains, the beaches, and the sound rain makes on a tin roof created you. He loves you more than Kanye loves Kanye, and more than a woman loves chocolate.

God desperately wants you to look in the mirror and praise Him because you are fearfully and wonderfully made. He doesn’t want you to find your worth in getting a text back or having a cute boyfriend. Your worth comes from your artist. And you know what? He carved the mountains, hung the stars, and painted the sea. He created sunflowers, puppies and coffee. And He still loves us more.

You were beautiful before he told you. So stop letting one boy determine how worthy you feel. You are worthy not because of who you are, how many likes you get, or how many boys like you. You are worthy because of whose you are. And whether you like it or not you are a child of God– and that is something to celebrate.

Luke 6:46-49 “Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you?  Everyone who comes to me and hears my words and does them, I will show you what he is like: he is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when a flood arose, the stream broke against that house and could not shake it, because it had been well built.But the one who hears and does not do them is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. When the stream broke against it, immediately it fell, and the ruin of that house was great.”

Today, I challenge you to build your life on the one constant we have in this crazy life. Build your life and your worth on what Christ thinks of you, not what a boy thinks or the amount of likes you get. When you do this you will have joy even in the hardest trials.

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.

28 comments

  1. You’re literally my favorite blogger and inspire me daily. Thank you for your wonderful words.

  2. This is amazing. Something that a lot of girls definitely need to hear because people have created an unattainable idea of beauty where you are beautiful only if you do certain things. And girls everywhere change yhekr appearances to be what they think is more beautiful. Really love what you are doing.

  3. Well said dear one! Cannot tell you how thrilled I am that my 16 year old beauty shared this on fb. Thank you for confirming & speaking this truth! ❤️ My favorite line is, “Your heart was mended even before the boy broke your heart.”
    I’m no longer young and I’m not old yet, and this truth touched my heart in a very special way. It is so true. And having lived some and having experienced significant heart ache a time or two or three, I often worry for my girls particularly. Abba used that line to remind me how He has mended mine and how He has their sweet tender hearts in His Big Daddy hands as well. So just know that you aren’t just speaking truth to the young ones but to the not so young ones as well. Thank you, sweet one.

  4. Well said. I could feel how passionate you are in your writing. I hope many women are positively affected by this.

  5. This post brought me peace in a super lonely time. I’ve been struggling with why can’t I change the guy who doesn’t have a relationship with Christ and why am I praying so hard for our relationship to change, but it’s not.

  6. I read this a while ago (I guess about a year ago now) and it still pops up in my memory, now is one of those times. I love re-reading this because it is so true and something that every girl should know and understand. You put God’s love for us into words that are so relatable and I think that is so awesome!!

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