Lately, I have been seeing a lot of beautiful young girls settling for guys ranging from mediocre all the way to absolutely horrible – worse than getting gum stuck to the bottom of your Steve Madden shoes kinda horrible. Frankly, that annoys me. Because you are worth more than that temporary boy.

I get it… trust me, I’ve been there. He makes you feel pretty. He is someone you care about because you feel like you are the only one who knows the real him. He brings you happiness in the moments when he is a good guy. He makes you feel wanted.

But here’s the deal: do you love the kind of man he is, or love feeling wanted by him?

Is he the kind of man you want your future son to have as his role model?

Is your love story  when told at the wedding, one that you are proud of and are blushing about? Or is it one where “well he was a jerk, cheated on me, and then we ‘talked’ for five months, and he took me out to dinner once, and yeah now we are together though and I’m still insecure on where we stand.”

Stop right there. You deserve more than that.

Honey, stop accepting almost relationships. Stop accepting “talking” relationships that lead to nowhere but tears, chocolate and Taylor Swift. Stop accepting boys who continually break your heart. Stop allowing boys who don’t even deserve your heart to break it.

The good guy is not out of your league. Wait for a man who pursues you, not one who takes advantage of you. One who follows the Lord and not the things of this world. One who loves your mind and not just your body. One who loves you like Jesus. One who may not be perfect, but who strives each morning to be the man the Lord intended for him to be. A guy who makes you feel beautiful because of who you are and not what you have to offer.

As women, we have to stop accepting mediocre boys who treat us average. We are children of the King of Kings. We are created in the image of the author of the world. We were created by the guy who hung the stars and painted the sea, and He still love us more. 

A guy who loves the Lord and you will not make you feel mediocre. He will make you feel loved, appreciated, and remind you daily that you serve a purpose for this world. You need someone who pushes you to grow to be a better friend, disciple and daughter.

He will give you butterflies, and make you belly-laugh. He will be patient with you, love you as much as Kanye loves Kanye, and bring you more joy than a frat boy gets when he learns how to properly frat snap. And the best part of it all is you get to love him like this in return and grow to be a better companion for him with each passing morning.

All your insecurities will not go away, but the boy you deserve will help you be reminded you were created in the image of God. You will still have days where you question your worth, because what girl doesn’t ever have insecurities? But when you find a boy who loves you like Jesus, you will be reminded to look to Jesus for your worth. He will not make you question your relationship with him or the Lord. You two will be chasing the Lord together, and when either stumbles, the other helps the other up.

Stop being hung up on the guy who did not treat you like you were a daughter of the King. Stop accepting mediocre or horrible guys. Wait for the good guy. Wait for a man who loves you likes Jesus. One who challenges you and respects who you are as a child of Christ. One you would want you daughter to date, and son to be. That’s the kind of guy you deserve, darling. Wait for him.

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.

28 comments

  1. Grace,
    You are such an inspiration to me!! I just found your website about a month ago and every single day I’m looking to see if you posted something. I’m entering high school next year and I definitely will be ready with the help of you! Everything you post relates to me so much. I’ve shared your website with tons of my friends and they have also fell in love with you!! I love love your love for Christ. It just makes me have such a deeper love with my faith. I recently got confirmed and it really really opened new doors for me. You are definitely my idol! I want to be just like you. I love everything you stand for and everything you do! You are an amazing inspiration for young girls!! Thank you for being soooo amazing! And thank you for having the guts to do this and start this Enough program. I promise it has inspired so many people. It’s amazing and so are you! God Bless! Love you girl! Keep doing what you’re doing!! 🙂

    I’m kind of struggling right now with a friendship. She’s changing and she has new friends and a new boyfriend. He’s not the best guy and the friends aren’t the best people either. I just don’t know if we should stay friends or what. She is such a great person she is just changing. When you have time, would you please do an article about friendship. It can be anything like about having the right friend or trusting your friend. Anything. I just need some advice. Thank you for being great!

    1. Kayla wow you made my day sweet girl <3 I am so joyful that you feel like you have grown with Jesus through this movement! You are wonderful, beautiful and worth so much–the King of Kings loves you, never forget that. I pray that today and everyday you may be filled with this reminder and joy! I am so proud of you for getting confirmed–congratulations! That is so beautiful! I will deff do an article about friendship 🙂 I even need that reminder on how to be a good Christian friend. God bless sweet girl thanks for this note <3 you rock don't change

      1. Grace you have no idea how much this means to me that you responded!!! I showed my mom and I was jumping up and down! Thank you so much! Again, you are amazing and God is definitely smiling down on you. God bless! ❤️

  2. My basic reply to articles such as these is, “be the type of girl that deserves a good person.” Your partner should mirror the values inside your heart. You will find the type of man you deserve, so be a person with values and inner beauty that justifies being with the type of guy described in this story.

  3. As a guy, reading this, I can’t help but ask if I fit the description, I don’t think I do. Regardless, a great article, keep doing what your doing, the Lord knows that there are too many girls who settle for less then they deserve.

  4. Such a beautiful post! I want my son to grow up to treat a young lady just like this and I’m determined to find a man that will set that example for him and treat me like this. I’m glad I stumbled upon your blog. 🙂

  5. Could you please please write a letter or any post about living in guilt of loosing our virginity to someone so worthless that makes us feel so cheap and worth nothing. It haunts me down every single second of the day. He left me in a way no ome will ever imagine. I get flashbacks of that night every single minute. Every touch, every feel I remmeber so clearly. God has forgiven me but i think this someone betweem me and myself. I feel disgusted about myself. I feel sick to my stomach. I feel so worthless. I was in a relationship with a demonic person. In away i wish i lost it to someone that was worth loosing it for sometimes. I dont know. As you can tell im very lost.

  6. Powerful Word Grace!!! I’ve read a lot online that women get “Bored” with the nice guys or good Men, while bad boys appear exciting and confident. If we can just shift the attention to looking at Character again in dating relationships we will spare our hearts from much unneeded turmoil. The Heart will reflect the real Person, and the mouth will speak whats in the Heart.

  7. Thank you for this. And the scripture at the end is really encouraging. Your words came at a much needed time. May God continue to bless you. x

  8. Wow!! Just want you to know I got done praying that I needed some sign for relationships and this came along, a beutiful reminder! Thank you for helping me realize something I should have known!

    God Bless!

  9. Grace,
    Here I am reading this and finding so much in it. It is God who will help me heal and knows what is best. I cannot make something right when it just is not. What is sad is this wisdom has been there for so very long but God meant for me to see it tonight.
    Thank you and may the good Lord bless you!

  10. I saw this article on Pinterest. Your blog spoke to me. I’m dealing with a guy who cheats and verbally abuses me. Yet, I continue to think this is what I deserve. You have no idea how much strength was given to me by reading this. Thank you

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