I’m pretty stubborn. I hate to admit when I am wrong. But today I couldn’t help but look at God and say yeah, you were right”.

I remember praying to God at age 13 that I would would one day sit with the popular girls at lunch and be a part of their friend group. I never sat with that group of girls, but I am thankful for all the friendships the Lord did give me along the way. If God made the popular girls my friends, I would not have had the friendships that I did have while growing up, the ones who made me who I am today.

I remember the time I asked God for the cute boy in high school to stay with me. He and many other boys left me. I’m now 500 miles away from him and could care less. My life would not be nearly as wonderful if the Lord answered that prayer the way I wanted Him to that April of my senior year.

I remember praying that I could look like a Victoria’s Secret Model. God never did answer that prayer back in junior high, but He did uniquely create me in His image. Although I still get insecure, I can not thank enough God for making me, me.

I remember yelling at God – begging Him to speak to me. I wanted evidence, proof He was there. Although I never got a burning bush, through His silence I was able to learn how to communicate with Him in a new way.

I remember my freshman year of high school when I said I wanted to be a doctor. I then took Biology, and even though I prayed to be good at science so I could make big bucks one day, the Lord told me no and made that class the last Biology class I would ever encounter. Now, I am a journalism major with a blog founded on Jesus and my love for helping girls find their worth in Christ. And this blog has been seen by almost 3 million people worldwide.

I remember praying to God to heal my best friend with cancer. I asked Him to let her stay on this earth and take me instead. I asked Him to spare her life. I asked Him to work a miracle on her and heal her. God said no, and took her to Heaven. Although it still stinks, and I don’t know why she had to suffer, I know God has given me a guardian angel and she is dancing with Him daily.

Some of God’s greatest gifts come from Him saying no. Some of the greatest adventures come from God closing the door to what you planned.When God says no, He says yes to something even greater than you made in your 5 year plan.

We so often think we know what is best. We think our plan is better than His, and that we have life under control. But the truth is, God’s plan is greater than anything we could ever imagine. The Creator of sunflowers, galaxies and kittens has personally created a plan for your life. You are not where you are by coincidence. You have meaning in this world and are meant for bigger things than the boy who broke your heart at 17. What a beautiful thought.

Here’s the truth: when I was locked in my bathroom crying over the boy who broke my heart, the test I failed, the girl who hated me, and the death of a loved one, I was mad at God. I had no clue what He was doing. Truth is that God is/was teaching me there is good in goodbye, His plan is greater, and that trusting God doesn’t mean understanding what He is doing, it means following Him in the unknown. Tears, failure and God saying no to you does not mean it is time to go with “Plan B”. It means it is time to go for what the guy who handcrafted you has in store for you.

You have potential. You have many gifts that God will use if you decide to follow Him. Take His unanswered prayers as opportunities to grow in trust with Him.

Yes, that breakup that you spent three months crying about while listening to T-Swift is a part of His plan. You not getting into your dream school is also a part of His plan.

Sometimes God gives us rainstorms only to reveal a rainbow after. You can decide to stay in your house while crying and pouting complaining the rain ruined your plans. Or, you can dance in the rain and look up to see the rainbow God grants us in even the worst of storms.

Chin up kids, God saying no can take you on a beautiful adventure. One day when you are dancing up at the gates looking back on your time while on Earth, I doubt you will remember the boy who broke your heart, the test you failed, or the hurricane that stole your house. You will remember the strength you found in Christ, even in the worst of battles. You will remember the love of your Creator, even when you felt unloved. You will remember how great the author of your life is continually. And as the great Darius Rucker once sang, maybe just maybe when your eyes meet your maker you will say, “Thank God for all I missed, because it led me here to this.”


“A person plans his course, but the Lord directs his steps.” — Proverbs 16:9

photocreds: Avery McIntosh

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. It’s so beautiful to see how perfect God’s timing truly is. After a rough breakup this week, this was definitely needed. Thank you so much for sharing this with us and using your amazing gift to bring light to others! 🙂

  2. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Even though I am not “a girl” but a middle aged woman, they are helpful to me too! Wonderful advice and encouragement!

  3. I don’t know you but I know you have truly spoke to my daughter through your words. She relates to your words and has a better relationship with God and herself. Just wanted to say thank you.

    1. Wow thanks for this sweet message! I can tell you as a mom are striving for your daughter to know the King, how beautiful. God bless you and praying for your daughter to grow in wisdom like you

  4. God took my father at twelve years old. At first, I was angry, but I realized that God intended for me to grow up fatherless and find my inner independence. God also gave me an alcoholic and abusive stepdad. I’m sure things will start turning out soon and I’ll be able to see some divine path. Prayer just isn’t working at this point, but I’m thinking if I keep donating and volunteering things will finally turn around.

    1. Consuela what you are going through stinks and is hard, it is okay to admit that. However, I don’t want you to think that doing good things will fix your situation. It may change you attitude on that. I know what it is like to pray and not feel like God’s listening but He is. Your testimony will inspire others if you allow God to work through it and your strength to come from HIM. I pray for your trials of the past and future. Also if you are currently being abused please report this to your authorities sweet girl. I am praying for you and where and how God will use your trials to further His kingdom

  5. So good! Love being connected with your blog still and being able to follow a blogger similar in age to me who has such a passion for the Lord and a gift to write. This post really spoke to me and made me think back and realize my own times like yours where something wasn’t the way I wanted God to make it, but I’m better off that way.

    1. Kirsten I love hearing from girls like you who are my age waking up each morning and trying to look like Jesus! that brings me more joy than you will know THANK YOU and God bless!

  6. Grace, you are amazing…and a perfect creation in God’s eyes! May I share this with my daughter-in-law? She has struggled her whole life with who she is, what she was made for, why others don’t accept her, why she has never felt “good enough”. And this led to an eating disorder that threatened her life. She’s better today and I want her to keep getting stronger. Hearing your words could be a huge push in the right direction!

    1. YES I would love for you to share it with anyone who you feel like needs it. I’ve been in a similar boat also tell her to look at my article “God’s Letter to the Woman Who Thinks She’s Ugly” that helped many others with body issues. God bless!

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