Spring break is coming. Soon our timelines will be filled with Total Fraternity Move articles all about booze and babes  guys can lust over. Everyone’s radios will be filled with music from country to rap talking about being “young and crazy”, and hooking up with girls because that is “fun”. Instagram feeds and all social media will become stumbling blocks for all guys seeking to live a Christian life.

To all the guys reading this who are trying to live a life where they chase after the Lord: I’m sorry. On behalf of every Christian girl out there, I want to apologize. It is hard being a Christian girl and I by no means and saying one is harder than the other, but being a man of faith is a completely different ball game.

Men of Christ all over continually watch the non-Christian players time after time win the hearts of even the good girls who friend-zone them, because “girls like bad boys”. Men of Christ are tempted every time they open up their Instagram feed during swimsuit season. If a girl is a virgin, she could be made fun of a little and be called prude, but that’s it. If a guy is a virgin, he is called horrible words which are demeaning to his choice to wait for the Lord’s promise. Guys are time and after time expected to be living crazy lives, hooking up constantly so they can share stories with their friends and prove that they are a man.

In the world we live in, it is so easy to believe that nice guys finish last. However, nice guys don’t finish last. Why you ask? In a world that makes fun of guys for not conforming to society’s standards of being a “man”, how can nice guys finish first? In a world where even good Christian girls friend-zone the nice Christian guys so they can date the non-Christian womanizer, how can nice guys ever finish last?

Nice guys would finish last if the story of Jesus ended with the cross. If the story of the perfect man being bullied, abandoned and beaten ended with Him being stabbed publicly and left to die I would agree that– yes nice guys do finish last.

But the story didn’t end with the cross.

The story continued. The story continued with an empty tomb. The story continued with Jesus greeting Mary weeping in the garden. The story continued with Jesus coming back to see His disciples. The story continued with Jesus sitting at the right hand of God the Father Almighty, where He shall be for eternity.

The story now continues with you and me, taking up our cross and being ostracized for living a Christian life. The story continues with us living the “nice guy” and “nice girl” life, doing our best to seek the Lord’s face daily in a world waiting to distract us.

And the story won’t end, till we are all in eternity. Till every nation hears of the Lord’s glory, and we live as a community in paradise with those who decided to believe in the beautiful of love story of a God sending His only Son as a servant to die for our sins, and raising Him from the dead to prove that death has no sting.

Nice guys don’t finish last. Maybe, in this world it is harder to be a nice guy who lives by God’s word. Maybe, the cross you carry is heavy. However, never forget your work is not done in vain. You will be rewarded for completing this race.

Because your story doesn’t end with a grave. One day when you die, your story won’t end with how many girls you slept with, how much you could lift, or how young and hot your wife ended up being. You story ends with you standing at the face of God for judgement. You story ends with the Lord asking “how did you love me while on this earth, my child”.

So to the nice guys, don’t give up. There are some girls out there who want to thank you for living the life you live. Some girls appreciate knowing there are men of faith.

And for that we thank you.

Your Sister in Christ

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Philippians 3:14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.



Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. God bless you for writing this honestly. You men of God are being prayed for and desired more than you can possibly imagine and your wife will thank you one day. Keep up the good fight. And keep up the wisdom, Grace, you rock

  2. To guys who have no luck with women for whatever reason (too quiet, too nice, whatever) here is my advice: Concentrate on your career and education where you will see a positive return. Re-order your priorities and move dating from #1 to #10. Career and education should be #1 and #2. If anyone asks why you are not dating say this “I am pretty busy right now but will get back to it at a future date.” This is an acceptable response that offends no one. Your enhanced status might improve your chances with women or it might not but it doesn’t matter since you are better off regardless.

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