Every girl has a couple of girls who just don’t like them. No, you never kissed their ex-boyfriend; and no, you never wrecked their car. No, you never did anything purposeful to make them not like you–they just don’t like you. In fact, they hate you. They can’t stand you and make sure you know it by the way they treat you.
Some people come in our lives and bring more tears than laughter. I remember the first time I dealt with someone who didn’t like me was in middle school. People kept saying “once you grow up girls aren’t mean and you realize this drama is stupid”. But those girls who didn’t like me grew to be high schoolers who didn’t like, who grew to be college students who didn’t like me. I have a good feeling one day when I drop my child off at preschool, there will be a mother who is also mean to me and doesn’t like me. Mean people just exist. People won’t always like me. Even someone as awesome as Taylor Swift has Kanye West. However, I can’t help but thank the people who have been mean to me and just will never like me.
To all those who just hate me: I used to blame myself for you hating me. I used to think that maybe I was in the wrong. I can be annoying–I would know, I annoy myself all the time. I’m not perfect. I have plenty of flaws if we are being honest here. But the truth is, I finally learned you didn’t have a reason to hate me. It seems like what annoys you about me is simply the fact that I breathe.
I don’t care anymore.
The truth is I am sorry if there is a reason you hate me. If I ever hurt your feelings I truly feel bad and ask for forgiveness. However, I will never apologize for being me. God designed me and my personality the way they are for a reason. Yes, I have my flaws but I know that God will you use my gifts and weaknesses to bring Him glory in this world. He perfectly made me the way I am for a reason. I will never be ashamed of who I am.
I wish you the best.
You have so much potential. You are so evidently talented. I know God can use your gifts to praise Him and to make this world a better place. I pray you see your gifts, and give them to the One who hung the stars and painted the sea. You are meant for bigger things in this world than making up rumors about me, or waiting for me to make my next mistake.
You are making me stronger and wiser.
Every time you have left me feeling insecure and hated, I have grown more into the woman God has intended me to be. I truly look at you as someone who has made me wiser. You taught me that words can hurt, and that I would rather be remembered as kind than well-known. You taught me to seek Christ in all I do. You taught me to be slow to speak and slow to anger. You taught me to go to Christ to find my worth and identity, not things or people of this world–and for that I thank you.
I pray you understand I love you as a sister in Christ.
I know you probably are thinking I am saying that in some sarcastic, mean and joking way but the truth is –I’m not. The One who created shooting stars, strawberries and kittens created both you and me. He designed us in His image. I pray every time I look at you I remember I am looking at God’s masterpiece. How can I hate a child of the One who saved me when I was so lost? God designed both you and I for a reason, and for that I love you my sister.
I used to cry every time someone told me what you would say about me. I used to be insecure when you would make me feel like I was a monster. I’ve learned lately to not care about how you view me. I’ve learned that there must be some deeper reason to why you hate me. Maybe, it is because we are secretly very similar. Maybe, it is because my personality simply annoys you. Maybe, you are doing it out of insecurity because someone once acted that way to you. Who even knows why…No matter why you are doing it though, I hope you know that before I go to bed and right when I wake up I pray for you. I pray that you know I don’t hate you back. I pray I can kill you with kindness and reflect the love of Christ by the way I treat you back. I pray you may come to have a personal relationship with Christ.
Even though you aren’t sorry now, I forgive you. I forgive you because One time this perfect guy forgave me. One time my Father sent His only Son as a sacrifice for all my mistakes. So I will forgive you, I will love you, and I wish nothing but the best for you.
–Your Sister In Christ
Mean girls are out there… and there is nothing more tiring than wondering why someone hates you. I once heard the quote “you can be the tastiest peach in all the world, but there is always going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches”. There will always be critics, hatred and mean girls. I pray we as a Kingdom can do our best to truly practice what we preach and love our enemies. Next time you don’t want to forgive someone who has done you wrong, remember how God forgave you. God forgave you when you didn’t deserve to be forgiven. Because of that we must live with the fruit of spirit and encourage one another.
Matthew 5:44-45 “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”