Oh goodness girl. Take some make-up off before we talk. I promise one layer of cover-up is enough. Also, relax with the eyeliner, and while you’re at it take off that dang push-up bra. Whatever you do, please don’t put koolaid in your hair, and remove the feather as soon as possible. Those trends will fade; but the koolaid stain will not.

16 is a hard age to be. You never feel “pretty enough” for the boys to like you, “skinny enough” to fit in American Eagle size 0 jeans, or “cool enough” to sit at the lunch table with the popular girls. Your family isn’t “rich enough” to buy you the clothes you want or a car that will make you stand out in the parking lot. You just never feel enough for the world.

But you weren’t created for this world darling. You weren’t meant to be pretty enough for every boy, or cool enough for every girl. You were meant to find joy in your Creator and His grace for you. You were meant to do life with the One who breathed life into you.

Here’s the truth: life stinks, but you don’t. Your heart may have been broken, but you aren’t. Girls may be mean, but you don’t have to be mean. You may feel like high school determines your worth, but it doesn’t.

The heartbreak, tears, and failure are all apart of growing up. Your husband isn’t that hot athletic star who always borrows your pencil, and Geometry may just not be your gift. You may never sit with the popular girls at lunch and no matter how hard you try, high school will never be like high school musical.

But you will grow wiser. All those tears, mistakes, and heartache create the beautiful woman you will one day be. Your first heartbreak won’t be your last, and you will learn later that it is possible to get lower than a 60 on an exam. You are going to gain weight and you are going to have to learn some lessons the hard way.

Through this journey we call life, you will learn that some of God’s biggest blessings come from hard lessons. You will learn there is good in goodbye. You will one day not even be able to remember each boy’s name who broke your heart or the girls who talked bad about you. However, you will remember how strong the tears made you.

At 16 nothing seems to be consistent. Your bra size is changing daily, your weight fluctuates by the hour, and your love life can go from fairytale to a Taylor Swift breakup song in just one text. But the one constant in your life is Jesus Christ. If you decide to do life with Him you will find joy even in your trials. You will find grace in even your worst of mistakes. You will find strength even when you are weak. You will learn that although you are not enough for the world, you are enough for Him–and that is more beautiful than any boy on the football team commenting on your picture.

Never lose your curiosity, your desire for adventure, and your ability to dance like a fool. Never be ashamed of your innocence and take time to pray to just say hi.

Never forget you were beautiful before that boy told you. And when he breaks your heart, you will still be beautiful. Your parents want to be in your life, and just cause you can drive doesn’t mean you are an adult.

There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t like you, don’t let it bother you. There’s always going to be an insecure girl who starts a rumor about you, just ignore it. There’s always going to be someone telling you to stop dancing, but never stop. Learn to have confidence in who God created you to be. God created mountain tops, waterfalls, and puppies. God created sunshine, snowflakes, and chocolate. That same God looked down on this world, handcrafted you, placing you where you are saying”you are mine, you are loved, I will lead you”. That is cool.

You are going places bigger and better than those mean girls. You will learn life is better when you are humble and kind.

You can’t fall in love until you know the One who created love. Hold your head, standards, and heels high. Do your squats. Relax, your best days have yet to come.


See you soon.

 Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. You have such a life long gift in writing!!!! I get so excited whenever you post new things. Love being able to keep up with you on social media!!! And I was so happy when you tweeted a screenshot of my Instagram page. I love you!!! Could you maybe do a blog post about eating disorders/insecurity?

  2. I cannot begin to express how much of an inspiration you are to me. Your writing absolutely amazes me, and inspires me each day I get an email. This article is gold, exactly what I needed to hear. I fully support you and adore your writing. You couldn’t have said it any more perfect. Thank you so much for your godly encouragement.


    1. Olivia you are so so sweet!! I am encouraged by you and you sound like a woman seeking Christ-how beautiful. I am praying for your walk with Him and know you are making Him proud. God bless new friend <3

  3. This was breathtaking, it opened my eyes to what life can truly be like. You are an absolute amazing writer and I know you will do great things in the future.

  4. This is such a beautiful reminder: it is so easy for me to get caught up in the high school life and in what I believe will define me because I can see it with my eyes.
    But time after time again I learn that I don’t belong to this world and therefore I shouldn’t fit in. It’s okay that I don’t have a huge group of friends to go to the football game with, because my identity is more than that.

    Thank you for this reminder and how encouraging all of your posts are to me!

    1. Lauren I am so glad you enjoyed this and found truth in it. I pray you seek Christ daily to be reminded of your true worth. I never as an underclassman had a lot of friends to go to the games with but one day that won’t matter. God bless Lauren thanks for reading and I love your wisdom 🙂

  5. I really needed this. Im a year older now but this message is still wonderful. Could you maybe do something about losing a family member or something around that.

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