I started high school as the weird, nerdy girl. I had few friends who actually cared for me, and found myself praying to God to make me popular. I didn’t really even know God at the time. I only talked to Him when I wanted something. I always thought that if I was more popular I wouldn’t be lonely and I would finally be happy.
I finished high school as Class President, Miss Fontainebleau High, and having been on both Prom Court and Homecoming Court. I was nominated for three other superlatives, and was someone everyone knew. I finally became “popular”. But despite what the rest of the student body thought, I was even more insecure and lonely than the freshman girl who sat in class praying someone cool would simply notice her. I struggled with body image issues, feeling alone, feeling secretly unwanted, and thinking I had no one to talk to.
I thought in college I would finally be secure in friendships. I went out-of-state, started a new chapter in my story, and joined a sorority. However, even when I hit 300 likes on my Instagram picture, I still felt like I didn’t even know one person who truly liked me and cared for me. I had 2000 friends on Facebook yet felt as if not one of them actually knew me.
The other day a girl who I knew told me she struggled with loneliness. The ironic part is I thought this girl was so happy and had so many friends. I was shocked to hear that she also felt lonely. I started to realize that maybe more people than I think struggle with loneliness.
Our society tells us that we are in the “best years of our life”. We go into high school, college, and young adulthood with expectations of how it will all pan out. Yet, we end up disappointed because we continually compare our lives to others and forget about the Big Man upstairs.
Newsflash: Everyone feels lonely from time to time. Everyone has felt disappointed. Everyone has struggled with feeling unhappy. Kendall Jenner I bet even struggles with feeling lonely. Yes, she has 48.4 million followers on Instagram but I bet there are days when even she feels like she has no one to talk to.
I remember in middle school when some of the “cool” people would be absent and there was always that one annoying girl who would say “WHERE IS EVERYONE TODAY?” I would always laugh in my head and be like “well…I’m here…k. thx.”
I feel like every time we complain about being lonely God says to us, “well do you not see me child? I am here for you.” Every time we complain about having “no one to talk to”, God just sits up in the clouds and shakes His head.
He is present. He cares. He wants to be your friend.
I get it. God can’t eat fast food with you at 2 a.m. God can’t go workout with you. God can’t drive around with you in the car blaring old T-Pain songs. God can’t be your bridesmaid or groomsman.
However, God can do so much more. The One who can move mountains wants to call you friend. The One who hung the stars desires a relationship with you. The One who created ice cream, sunsets, and Taylor Swift wants to do life with us– and that is a beautiful gift.
Cliche…yes. But it is true.
Talk to God like a friend. Be honest and real with Him.
Sometimes our best friends just take time. Some people meet their best friends in high school, some college. Some even meet their best friends when they are volunteering on their fourth child’s field trip. Trust his timing for when he will place the people you will call your best friends. But never forget that God can be your best friend if you allow yourself to do life with Him daily. Communicate with Him. Hangout with Him.
So if you feel lonely I challenge you to look at the stars. Remember that the One who hung the stars above you placed you where you are in this Earth for a reason. He created you for a purpose greater than getting 1000 followers on Instagram. He created you to be in friendship with Him and find joy in the true friendships He gives you. And when you feel like no one is listening and life knocks you down, never forget you are in a perfect position to pray.
MSG Version — Matthew 6:30-34 “If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don’t you think he’ll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met. “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.
Also I will be starting an ASK GRACE series. Feel free to e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org any questions or topics you want answered on the blog. God bless friends and never forget that in Christ, we are enough.