Dear Lord,

I struggle. I struggle a lot. I struggle with judging everyone I meet. I judge them based on their clothes, what they look like, what greek letters they wear. I judge people based on first impressions. I use the eyes You blessed me with as weapons of deciphering those I talk to, judging them based on fleeting characteristics of the world.

I continually stereotype people based on their outward appearance. If a member of the opposite sex is cute, I will give them more of my time, energy, and affection, as opposed to someone I don’t view as physically attractive. I see certain greek letters, and stereotypes judging them and my view on them overflow my thoughts–when I don’t even know them.

The society I live in tells me presentation is key. The eyes are used daily in the world to determine if I want this person as my friend, spouse, worker, and so much more.

I see people for what the world sees, and I’m tired of that, God.

Lord, teacher, wonderful counselor–I am here to ask You for Your eyes. I want to see the world the way You see it. I want to see Your creation the way you designed it. I want to see people for their heart. I want to immediately love each person I encounter, not immediately judge.

Your eyes, my Lord, are full of acceptance, love, joy and empathy. You see the whole story. While I over here, Your imperfect creation, see people for the way the world sees them.

I see the mean girl, You see the insecure child searching for validation. I see the egotistical player, You see the child lost in a world of temptation and sin. I see the awkward loner, You see a wonderful child overlooked by a world of judgement. I see the girl not skinny enough or pretty enough, one with insecure thoughts, and You look back at me in the mirror and see a beautiful child who doesn’t know where her worth comes from.

Lord, tonight I confess the sins my eyes have caused. I pray I may gain Your wisdom, Your eyes of empathy and compassion, and that I may look at Your creation and children the way You do. I pray I see others for what they are worth, and I see myself for what I am worth.

Give me Your love for humanity Lord, Your compassion for those who are lost, and Your ability to see the full story. 

With Love,

Your Child


This post was very personal, and was me confessing sins I struggle with the most. I pray we all can ask the Lord tonight for His eyes and ability to see past worldly standards.

Never forget the creator of lunchables, beaches, and puppies created you and me–and that is something to praise Him for.


Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. I love your posts!! So much truth… thank you for posting these. It makes me feel like I’m not the only one walking a difficult path at times 🙂

  2. Grace, for a young lady, you have so much wisdom, and I am so happy to see that you are using your gift of writing and your gift of compassion enlightening others in the way that we should all go.
    This recent prayer of yours could be most of ours, as we are so influenced by what we superficially see which is determined by the world. If only we would wait to see what is determined in an individual by the Word of God!
    You made me happy that you are one of my sisters in two ways, first in Christ and secondly through Pi Beta Phi!
    Ring Ching Ching,
    Susan Oren

    1. Ring Ching my sister times two!! I always LOVE meeting pi phi sisters! I pray this prayer is other’s prayers as well because I feel this sin is common in the society we live in. Thanks for your encouragement God bless and thanks for reading! I love what you said “if only we would wait to see what is determined in an individual by the Word of God.” SUCH TRUTH and wisdom you spoke into me

  3. This is soooo great, and you’re a fantastic writer. This kind of post really inspires me to grow in my relationship with God. thank u!! I will definitely be reading more!

  4. Your posts are all so wonderful!!! I initially saw the “I’m not good enough to be a Christian” post shared on Facebook and have spent the past hour reading the rest of what you have to say. I struggle with many of the same things, and your words have provided a great source of comfort and encouragement. You are wise beyond your years! Thank you for sharing all that is on your heart and blessing so many others!

  5. Wow! You’ll never know just how much all your blog posts help me! I stumbled across your blog just a few days ago, so I went back and read all your post and they are incredible! Every time I read one of your blog post it seems like it applies to only me and no one else. I’m super glad someone acknowledges and understands all the struggles we girls face these days. I’m truly excited I “accidentally” found your blog! Can’t wait to read the next post!😄 Thanks for creating this blog and keep up the amazing work! God Bless!

    1. Awh Peyton this is so sweet and encouraging– I love that the trials, insecurity and problems you are going through are similar because it gives me comfort and reminds me we are not alone. God bless you new friend 🙂

  6. I didn’t even fully realize that I too struggle with this until I read your post. Entering into college from a previous background of homeschooling, people-pleasing tendencies and the closely related people-judging tendencies follow me everywhere I go. I constantly judge others, but even more than that, I judge myself. I try and see myself through the eyes of others, not the eyes of God. I find validation in beauty, in getting snaps, and in being the best. I even stalk my own instagram, trying to figure out how others would view me if they stalked me. It eats me away, leaving a little less of who God created visible to the world, and a little more of the world of sin in my heart.

    This post made me more aware of these sins and the grace of God to see the Big Picture and the Complete Salvation that defines our worth! Thank you very much for that!

    1. Hannah you are so wise and encouraging!! I love your heart and how you felt convicted by this article. Good for you for being authentic with yourself and Christ. So proud of you, I struggle with this too we both just have to continually pray for guidance from Christ. God bless!

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