Being a girl isn’t as easy as it seems. The hair. The makeup. The boys. The ex-boyfriends. The struggle. The constant desire to please people. The world continually telling you how to act, what to do, who to be.

One can only take so much. It is hard to be a girl in a society that tells us “y’all need to look this way”, “act this way”, “sit at this lunch table”, and “be with this kind of guy”. We find ourselves continually letting the world control our view on ourselves, and never leave our worth up to the One who designed us.

But if you are a girl reading this, I pray you read these truths, find your worth in something greater than what the athletic guy thinks of you, and rest in how great your maker is.

  1. True friends don’t get competitive with their friends. Everyone has that one girl “friend” who always has to out do their success. Everyone has at one time been that “friend” as well. Being a true friend is about loving one another, rejoicing when your friend rejoices, and crying when the other cries. As a friend you should not be trying to “out win” your friend, you should be cheering them on, praying for the best for their life, and simply doing life with them–all while pushing them to be a better disciple, friend, and person. 
  2. Stop comparing your faith to others.  Stop saying “well she’s so much of a better Christian than me”, and stop picking out other’s sins as worse than yours. Every person you meet struggles with different sins than you, and is still working on their faith. God says “come as you are”, not “you must be like a perfect Christian to talk to me”. Embrace the Lord’s grace for both you and your peers.
  3. Count your blessings, not your calories. There is nothing wrong with watching what you eat and treating your body right. In fact, that is wonderful to do and a great way to treat your body like a temple. However, never let your day revolve around your weight. Never idolize your body shape. Instead, focus on God first, idolize Him and Him alone–not what the scale says. Your worth doesn’t come from the number on the scale; it is from God.
  4. There is good in goodbye. My girl Carrie Underwood sang about this in one of her best songs, “Good in Goodbye”.  Some people are only meant to be chapters in your life. Be willing to close the chapter, and turn the page to what the Lord has in store. Some people are meant to shape you into who you are supposed to be, not be there to see you become that. This could be an ex, or a friend who continually pushes you into a sinful life. Be willing to trust God to write your story, not yourself or others. One day you will thank God that you didn’t get what you thought you deserved… because in reality you deserved so much more.
  5. Don’t forget to praise God for the little things, not just the big things. So often we forget that there is beauty and triumph that comes from the Lord during the little things. A sunny day, a phone call from a parent, or maybe even Blue Bell Ice Cream, are all reasons to celebrate God. Celebrate the little things God does, because in reality those little things, are actually big things.
  6. Just because it is on sale doesn’t mean you saved money. “Buy 5, get the 6th one free”, sounds appealing, but when you were really only needing one new pair of panties–it is not. Be smart financially.
  7. Find a guy who challenges you–in a good way. Fall in love with a guy who makes you think and molds you into a better person. Make sure both of y’all are continually pushing each other to grow spiritually, and into the person Christ created y’all to be. You should be a team with your soul mate. He should never be tearing you down; and he should never make you feel bad about yourself. He should push you into a better disciple, friend, mother, and woman of faith. 
  8. Stop comparing the past to where you are now. Stop focusing on your past mistakes, and stop comparing how life used to be to where you are now. You are where you are for a reason. If you keep looking back at the past, you will never notice everything God is doing right in front of you in the present. Find joy in whatever stage of life you are in –because you are there for a reason.
  9. Pray often. God will always fully know you, but you won’t fully know Him–unless you frequently communicate to Him. Pray when you are sad, thankful, lonely and just because you want to hang out with Him. Treat God as a friend.
  10. You will never be enough for this world. Not everyone will think you are cool enough, not every college or job will think you are smart enough. Also, not every guy will think you are hot enough. However, the One who designed waterfalls, brownies and Sunday mornings thinks you are enough–and that is something to celebrate.


My prayer for every girl reading this is, is that you realize that life is short, memories last a lifetime, and your creator is loving and wants a relationship with you. Life is not always fun, and nothing as a girl ever seems stable. Everything is constantly changing…your weight fluctuates, hormones rise and fall, and your skin can go from picture perfect to being filled with pimples in a matter of minutes. Boys come and go when you are young, but the One constant in your life is God, and if you decide to do life with Him you will find consistent joy, grace, and love– no matter the circumstances. And that is the best gift you can ever receive. 

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


      1. I want to say, may God continue to bless you, in all that you set out to do. I also have a 19 year old daughter, this is a great Article that she and I can read together… God bless

  1. As with everything God does; this message comes at such a much needed time. I want to shout out to the world: GIRLS: STOP BEING SO MEAN TO OTHER GIRLS! It isn’t going to help if your goal is to raise yourself up in a way that you might believe — others will NOT see you as MORE IMPORTANT, MORE SPECIAL, PRETTIER, BETTER TO HANG WITH FOR THEIR OWN GOOD POPULARITY! Over time, most fortunate girls will find that next to God, us girls need our girlfriends throughout our lives practically as much as we need water to drink. I pray today that the girls or the parents of the girls that need to read this; those who are absolutely destroying others’ girls self confidence and making them question themselves and their place in this world will besides God, will recognize what is going on and help their daughters find more peace in the Lord. And for us mom’s with son’s, I pray that we are able to share with them what makes a girl special, worthy of their time and attention – and mainly, their friendship.
    Thank you Stefanie!

    1. Thanks Jen!! I totally agree–girls can be so mean, and I never understood why girls are so mean to other girls when they understand how hard it is to be a girl in this society. Thanks for the wisdom you spoke in this comment with great advice you are such a woman of faith God bless!

  2. Reblogged this on Happi Living and commented:
    I completely agree with everything on here! This really helped a lot! I just became interested in blogging/ reading blogs and I have no idea where to start my blogs, but yours are really helpful and inspiring!

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