The other day I got mad at myself. Here I am writing a blog for women and girls about living a Christian life, when I still fall into sin. I continually tell girls advice on how to stay focused on Christ, yet find myself putting the world before God.

I struggle with thinking “I’m not good enough to be a Christian.” I am not the poster child for being a perfect girl. Sometimes at church I don’t even feel God at all in the worship songs. I see everyone else’s hands raised and feel like they are good enough and I’m not.

I’ve messed up a lot in my 19 years–and if you are ever looking for blackmail on me… it wouldn’t take you long. I have too many regrets, mistakes and sins to proclaim myself a follower to the One who was bullied, beaten and crucified all for the sake of proclaiming His love for God and me.

I doubt I am the only one who has felt this way.

My human instinct tells me I don’t deserve to be a Christian and be forgiven. I don’t deserve to one day look at God during judgement and hear “well done good and faithful one”. Sure, maybe I’ve had dinner with a homeless woman before, but I haven’t started orphanages like Mother Teresa, nor do I know every bible verse. My past makes me ashamed. My mistakes feel too dirty, too bad to be forgiven.

However, after prayer I realized maybe being “good enough” isn’t the point to being a Christian. Being a Christian isn’t about having a check list of “things you must do to believe”. Having a personal relationship with Christ isn’t about being the one with the pretty prayers at the dinner table, and having the artsy photos with the deep captions. You aren’t supposed to compare your ways of praising the Lord to the person next to you. Each person proclaims their love and belief for Christ differently. You are supposed to grow in friendship with Christ, love Him, and do your best everyday to wake up and think “how can I love Him more”.

Being a Christian isn’t supposed to be a nice stroll in Central Park in 70 degree weather. Walking with Christ isn’t supposed to be about Instagraming your coffee and bible verse of the day and pretending life is perfect. It isn’t about sitting in a pew for an hour a week. It is about doing your best to look to God when the world is telling you to look away. It is about a relationship with Christ, and calling Him a friend. It is about falling and admitting defeat. It is about admitting you are not perfect and prone to wander, but knowing that God gave His Son to die for your mistakes, and you are forgiven by His grace and not anything you have done.

None of us deserve to call ourselves a friend of Christ. Jesus Christ is way out of our league if we are being honest here. But as Relient K said back in 2006 “The beauty of grace is it makes life not fair.”

Being a Christian is not about hiding the struggle, in fact it is quite opposite. Being a Christian is about admitting you struggle, but because of God–and God alone you are forgiven. You aren’t forgiven because you did a bunch of nice things. You are forgiven because of Christ.

There is no check list for Christianity. You don’t have to put your hand up in worship to prove you are a Christian, you don’t have to go overseas, and you don’t have to have a seminary degree. You just have to love God and do your best to worship Him with your actions daily. Maybe for you that is spending 2 years in Africa, or maybe it is serving as a camp counselor. Maybe for you that is singing Christian music, or maybe that is simply giving one dollar to a homeless man. Being a Christian is about accepting grace leading to you believing and loving God through your actions. Being a Christian is not about being perfect.

So yes–that means that God takes your anger problems, mistakes from your toxic relationship in high school, addiction, and your biggest regret. He looks at all your mistakes and says “you are enough for me come as you are my child”. He doesn’t say “hey I’m not going to forgive you till you say sorry and pay me back somehow”. No instead He says I love you this much–stretching out His arms to show you, and having them repeatedly stabbed with nails onto a cross, as an offering of forgiveness for you.

We should have been on that cross. We should have been punished because the truth is we aren’t good enough. But that’s what makes Jesus so great. See, with God and Jesus now we are never “not good enough”. God is asking you right now to run to Him, with your flaws, with your imperfections, with your felony, with your addiction. He is asking you to run to Him.

So wake up every morning knowing Jesus Christ is way out of your league— but loves you and forgives you for every mistake you have made. He decided to die for losers like you and me, and now because of that we are forgiven and have the opportunity to live for Him and receive eternal freedom. 

The creator of mountains, chocolate and Taylor Swift says we are enough–and that my friends is a beautiful thing.

Ephesians 2:8 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith–and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God–“



Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. I just started reading your blogs. And I have to say, it is refreshing and just a blessing to get to read someone who just is creative and able to write in a clear way, but still make some great references. It’s also great reading a blog of someone who is similar in age. Keep writing, all the glory to God!

    1. Yes, All the glory to God! I am so glad you believe in the truth inside my blogs Kirsten, it is so refreshing to know other girls my age agree. God bless you and your walk with the Lord 🙂

      1. So good! There is so much value in blogging because it can spread and get to who may need it. Glad to have made a connection with another blogger. Excited to read more of what you write in coming days/weeks.

  2. I have always struggled with my relationship with God, and never thinking I was good enough to be His daughter, but I have never voiced my struggle. I am currently two and a half hours away from home for college, and I try to talk to my dad atleast every other day if not more just to talk to him. It could be about nothing but just hearing his voice comforts me. This morning my dad sent me the link to this article. Sometimes I feel like my dad can read my mind, or has some kind of alarm that goes off when I’m starting to have anxiety or start struggling, because he will send me the most perfect articles/songs to lift my spirits.

    Your blog has really given me that extra little push I need. I have read some of your other posts, and I am astonished on how every word of what you talk about is exactly how I am feeling even with my anxiety on how I have no idea what I want to do with my life, my insecurities, and how I feel as if I am not good enough for God.

    But I am! I am the daughter of God, and I am made in his image.

    Thank you for sharing your words and God’s love through your post.

    1. Whitney, everything I write is things I struggle with my sister, so it brings me comfort to know the words God comforts me with are needs to hear by others. You sound like a wonderful woman of faith, I pray for you to simply fall in love with Jesus and not worry about the world, including your sins, remember you are washed as white as snow. God bless and I will be praying for your walk, you seem like someone with great faith who will change this world!

  3. I just happened across your blogs from a share on facebook and I am so thankful that I did.
    I am a 45 year old mother of 4 and still need to hear these things. You are wise beyond your years and truly a child of God speading and doing the word and work of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!
    God Bless you!! 🙂

  4. This is so awesome! This blog is so on point for so many of us. It’s so easy to forget what & who we were called to be as Christians! Keep doing what God has for you 🙂

    Sydney, 18 years old 🙂

  5. Thank you so much for posting this! It spoke to me in every possible way. There is nothing better than reading something that you couldn’t find the words to say yourself, but it is exactly what you have been trying to say. There are so many times I feel myself just going through the motions in Church and questioning my faith for not feeling the passion I feel like i should be throughout Mass. Thank you for reminding me that there is so much more to being a Christian. God bless you!

    1. I wrote this because I was struggling with this, therefore it brings me a lot of comfort knowing that I’m not alone. God bless you new friend 🙂 and I’ll be praying for your walk with Christ

  6. I am a 75 year old Christian and came across your post on a friend’s timeline. I would like to say that I relate so well to your article and for a 19 year old you are pretty awesome. I struggled for a long time thinking I wasn’t good enough for God but after a long while I now know that isn’t true. I wish I could have read your post a long time ago, but then God makes everything beautiful in His time, doesn’t he?

    1. Such truth you just said. Your testimony is beautiful and speaks about the Lord’s timing! I pray for your walk to continue to be strengthened through the Lord and you seek His face everyday. God bless!

  7. I truly needed to read this today. I have been struggling with the feeling of not being good enough for God so much lately. How I felt so unworthy. I felt I deserved to feel miserable in my sin. But my best friends wouldn’t let me think that way and they told me the same things you wrote in this blog. I really needed this.. So thank you so much for writing it. It seems like it was written just for me.

    1. Everything I write is words I need to hear therefore it brings me such comfort when people like you comment this because it reminds me I am not alone. I will be praying for your “unworthy” thoughts to be filled with truth of God’s grace and love! God bless and thanks for reading new friend 🙂

  8. God is wonderful he forgives … We are not losers .
    Just believe have faith and trust in Jesus and you will be rewarded . Everyday wake up say hi to God talk to him he is always listening if you can’t cope .. Ask him to take care of the issue .. Tell him I don’t know what to do so I am giving it to you to fix . Do not forget to be grateful and always thank him for his wonders

  9. You are so incredibly inspiring, words can’t describe how much I needed this. In fact right before I read this I was praying to God and telling him that I didn’t feel like I was good enough to be loved by him. Being a Senior in high school, you are SO relatable to me. I have only read a couple of your VERY inspiring posts but this one really touched my heart. I thank the Lord for people like you. You are definently a Proverbs 31 lady thank you so much, the Lord answered my prayers through you tonight.
    God Bless

    1. Kyndal you are so kind, and sound as well like a woman seeking Christ and living by His word. It is easy to be hard on ourselves– but remember that God sees all your mistakes, and your worst thoughts. But He says “YOU are Enough”. I pray you remember that new friend God bless!

  10. So I’ve just recently been reading throygh all your blogs and I am truly inspired. The way you open up to your readers humbles me. It’s so nice to hear that other people struggle with the same things I do. Your passion for the Lord is so evident in your writing and I just want you to know that your blogs have had a positive impact on me, and I’m thankful for your words.

    1. Wow Merrell you made my night. Everything I write about I am struggling with, so comments like these are a sweet reminder I am not alone. I am praying for your walk–God bless new friend! <3

  11. Who would have thought a 20 something young woman would encourage a 50 something grandad. But you just did. You spoke from your heart, and out of a sincere understanding of scripture. Because of that your encouraging words spoke to me, and not just your young friends. No-one is ever too old to learn, or too young to impart wisdom. You have a God given gift. Thank you for sharing your encouragement. You reminded me of just how huge grace really is.

      1. Dear Grace. My sincere apology for only replying to your comment more than a year later. Time is relative so your comment meant the world to me when I read it this evening. I hope whatever you were going through at the time has passed and that things are good again. If I may quote you on your own words – “keep seeking Him.” Never give up.

  12. thank you for this, i’ve recently felt like i’m not doing as much as i can and not being a good christian. this really made me feel better and helped me to stop worrying.

  13. I love this so much and shared on Facebook. I definitely get this. Especially, lol, the part about people raising their hands. I always think, “why is everyone else feeling the holy spirit at this time and not me?” I definitely struggle with being “good enough.” I know that God gives grace even though I don’t deserve it, but yet I have a hard time believing it, dealing with guilt and shame from my past.

  14. I’m not a 20-something. I’m definitely not female. And yet, your post here spoke to me and answered a question that has been on my mind the last few days. Sometimes, I need a reminder of the fact that I don’t need to question the value of my life when I have the correct perspective. You conveyed that elegantly and in a personal way. Thank you.

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