Dear Daughter,

I know your thoughts. When you stand in the mirror and complain in your mind about how your “hair is too thin”, your “thighs are too large”, and that your “nose is weirdly shaped”– I hear it. I know your thoughts on your stomach and your pimples that seem to get only worse when it is your time of the month. I hear you complain about wanting a bigger butt and a smaller waist. I see you stalk random people on social media who look like you wish you did. I hear you compare yourself to other girls. I even heard your tears that night the boy broke your heart and you thought it was because you weren’t pretty enough. 

I hear it all– and it breaks my heart, my child.

I know you think you aren’t pretty enough. But I did not create you to be enough for the world. I didn’t create you even for this world. I created you for something bigger than getting 100 likes on your selfie. I created you for something more important than having a hot guy comment the fire emoji on your bikini picture. I created you to be in relationship with me, your Father. I created you to find joy in your purpose, not how you look on a Friday night.

I designed you. Every part of you. Even that piece of hair that never will straighten in the corner on your head. Even your freckles you so often try to cover up. I created your body shape, and your hair. I created you in the image of me, for a reason greater than being gawked at by guys.

Maybe someone in this world has told you that you are ugly. Maybe you have heard comments that other insecure girls have made about your physical appearance. Maybe that one boy dumped you for no reason and you are so sure it is because you gained a few pounds.

However my child, they are wrong. The world is wrong. The world may tell you that you aren’t pretty enough, but I say that you are altogether beautiful. The world may tell you that you look better when you hide your face with makeup, but I say to you that you were created in my image. The world may tell you that life is better if you look like a model, but the reality is you find more joy in this life when you walk with me. 

The truth is, you are beautiful, and created the way you are for a reason. You are my masterpiece, my greatest artwork, and my child. Every inch of you is beautiful, and your ability to walk with me is your greatest and most beautiful gift.

Know your worth my child. Know that you may never be pretty enough for this world, but this world has no importance. You are more than “pretty enough” for me. You are created the way you are for a reason. Your purpose is your best accessory.

You may not feel beautiful, but I promise– I hung the stars and painted the sea, and made you in the image of me, and that is beautiful.

You are mine,



I pray that these words the Lord has told me tonight may help you know your beauty. I so often think “I am not pretty enough”. I so often forget I was created by the greatest artist. I so often forget God’s love for me–even my tummy fat and pimples. You are beautiful and I pray you rest in His truth.

The same God who created puppies, carbs, and sunflowers created you–and that is something to praise Him for.

Genesis 1:27 –“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”

Psalm 139: 13–“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.”

Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


      1. I needed to read this….and I did at the exact right time. Im glad you took the time to remind me that I am beautiful….. and in the most important way. Very much appreciated that you took your time to help someone who could be feeling
        Sad and down.

      2. Thanks sooooo much. I really needed that. I struggle with knowing I am beautiful enough. I focus on what the world says and what I see. I need to focus on how God sees me. He sees me as a beautiful child of God!!! I always focus on the body parts I think are ugly but I need to know that God created me the way I am and I wasn’t made for this world. I was made for something better: a relationship with my Father!!!! Thanks you soooo much again. God Bless

      3. I broke down in tears reading this. I needed to read this now. I am going through depression right now and I haven’t told anybody because no one would ever think me the one who smiles and laughs the loudest is going through something to where I sometimes feel like I just can’t do it anymore. So thank you

      4. I struggled with the same thing–being the extroverted girl who seemed happy but struggling inside. Find someone you trust and open your heart to them. I will be praying for you to continue to seek Christ new friend. God bless!

  1. Sometimes it is hard to see how beautiful we really are. It is really hard when the world tells you you have to be a certain size or have a certain kind of hair or clothes. I am very thankful for the body god gave me even if i am not a size 2. I love who i am and i am learning each day to love my imperfections because god made me and i need to be proud of who i am. I love this letter and i hope other women and girls will realize how beautiful they really are.

    1. You are so kind and sweet to share your thoughts ! I am so happy you found joy in the way God made you and I pray others become as wise as you! Hopefully you will check out more of my articles in the future! 🙂

      1. I am wondering, after looking at your picture, how you would know what it would be like to be heavier, have darker hair,a bad complexion etc. Girls that look like you don’t have a clue! I believe what you say but I also know it would be easy to say this when you look like you do. I do know God is saying everyone he made is unique and beautiful but other people especially teenagers don’t go by that. Bullys are everywhere and here I am dreading the day when my overweight granddaughter comes home from her Christian school in tears because she was made fun of.Try telling a teen aged girl that God has made her beautiful when the world tells her otherwise. It will not stop her tears!

      2. Believe it or not Charlotte I myself have been bullied for weight, looks, and being a Christian. I have been told my forehead was so big it could be an airport. I have had rocks thrown at me because my face was so physically huge and told it must have had a gravitation force. I have gotten to the point where I didn’t feel pretty enough for a boy who cheated on me, where I dieted like crazy and cried when looking at pictures of myself thinking I wasn’t pretty enough. I don’t know what its like to look like your grand daughter, but I don’t know what it is like to look like any girl commenting or anyone else but me. No matter what a girl looks like we all struggle, we all feel not “pretty enough”, and everyone has insecurities of their own. I’ve had tears and know that the cliche answer doesn’t help others fight insecurity when bullies tell you otherwise, but I know a relationship and friendship with God does help. No it doesn’t wipe your tears away, but it comforts them. And that is what I am trying to tell my generation and the girls younger. I pray you know my reply was not meant to come across as rude–all this is in a loving tone, but remember everyone struggles with their own battles therefore it isn’t kind to assume that I or anyone can’t relate without knowing our past. God bless you and I will be praying your grand daughter grows in friendship with the Lord, and is reminded that what others think has no importance compared to the designer of the sea.

    1. I appreciate your comment and your opinion, but I disagree. However for me God speaks through my writing to me therefore this is how he responded to my insecurity thoughts and I thought I would share. The God I know is happy His truth is being heard by his daughters.

    2. Miss Valentine never said she was God. She’s only stating what is true because she knows her Bible. The words in that book are true. You shall see someday when you meet your maker.

  2. This is so beautiful to me! I love that you shared these words with so much love from our Father coming through them. I definitely struggle with these, and I am always heated with shame when I think about how I was created in God’s image, and “isn’t that good enough?!” The world wants to tell us otherwise because the world doesn’t believe that God is good enough, and we drink it in like we’ve been dying of thirst for days. Let’s all do our best to try and remember God’s work in us!

    1. You just spoke some major truth girl!! So gladed you found encouragement in His word’s to us and I pray for your walk with the Lord and that you continue to find security in His value in you. You sound incredibly thanmks for reading and I hope you subscribe or continue to check out my blog! 🙂

    2. Thank you so much for writing this! I need to print it off and post it on my wall to read every day! I just recently got Psalm 139:14 tattooed on my arm; what a great reminder it is!

      1. Thank you Cassidy for believing it! You are worth so much and I am thankful to call you a sister! That sounds like an awesome tattoo 🙂 Hopefully you will subscribe or check out future article on this movement. God bless!

    1. Wow Molly you made my day! I am just thankful people enjoy hearing God’s words. In the crazy world we live in its refreshing to know there are sisters out there like you who are striving to find their worth in Christ. Consider subscribing if you feel lead! Thanks again Molly 🙂

  3. This message is truly beautiful! I have struggled with body image for most of my life. I never seem to feel like I measure up to the worlds view of beauty. Thank you for the reminder of what really matters and what true beauty is. We only need to be beautiful in his eyes and we already are, just the way he made us. Thanks again! Kimberlee

    1. Kimberlee I am so glad you found truth and encouragement in this article! I struggled for years, and still do, but have to continually pour truth in my heart. I pray you continue to seek the Lord for truth! Hopefully you will subscribe or check out my blog in the future. This blog is designed for girls like us who struggle with insecurity, but find true worth in Christ. You are loved!

  4. I struggle everyday with the question “am I enough…, smart enough, pretty enough, good enough” for my family, for my Father, for myself. I am a survivor of a military accident that has crippled me, my body bears the scars of the pain it has seen. I also suffer daily from diseases of which there is no cure but put me in agonizing pain. I feel so ugly all the time bc of what I look like on the outside. But I have hope and faith. I try to service those in when I can, be a good mother, wife, and friend. Thank you for reminding me that I am beautiful…a beautiful survivor not an ugly victim of my circumstances.

    1. Wow wow sister Kim, you sound like an inspiring joy. God has given you a beautiful testimony that brought tears to my eyes, and can change people’s hearts. Share your story with others. This blog was created for girls like us who struggle with never feeling “enough”. However with only the Lord are we enough. I can’t wait to hear how you story changes the Kingdom. I pray you check out my blog in the future if you like it or subscribe. You are so loved!

  5. This is so beautiful. I struggle daily with not feeling beautiful, being too skinny a d having chicken legs, I have heard it all my life. But one thing I try too hold close too is that it breaks His heart when I talk against my body. I am His and not my own, and if He says I am enough then that is more then enough for me. Take this world, just give me Jesus. God bless you, this post could not have come in a better time in my life. Thank you for sharing God’s true and perfect love. 💜

    1. You just spoke so much wisdom thank YOU for sharing! I pray for you to see your worth and your walk with the Lord to make you see your beauty! You sound wonderful! Hopefully you will subscribe or checkout my blog in the future 🙂

  6. I absolutely love this! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am a high school leader at my church and it can be so difficult to tell high school girls about how they are created in His image. You said it wonderfully and I will be bringing this to share next week with them! Thank you!

    1. Wow that made my day! High Schoolers hold a special place in my heart, that is where I struggled with being “pretty enough” and I was a counselor for 15 year old girls this summer. Bless you for walking with them, I will be praying for you and your ministry! Tell them to check out my website for more articles geared toward high school girls as well! Thank you Sara!

    1. Wow so sweet of you to tell me that! It is very encouraging to hear that these words lifted up my fellow sisters! You are loved and I hope you and your friends read my articles in the future!

  7. Thank you SOOOO much for this!!!!!! I have been struggling with this so much lately…ever since I was little, I’ve had bad self-esteem issues (made worse when I found out about my mental disorders, which the world says is never beautiful), and it’s nice to be reminded of the truth. Thanks again!

    1. I understand the sentiments of the woman who said she
      hurts for her granddaughter who will likely be bullied
      when attending school. Yes, God loves us just the way
      we are, but we still have to live in a world full of people
      that judge others by appearance. To tell
      someone that God made them that way, even though
      it’s the truth and scripture says so, may not be the
      best answer in the immediate moment. Maybe after
      the hurtful remark has had time to pass and the memory is
      not quite so painful, Then sit with them and read scripture
      with them that shows them that they are truly the apple
      of His eye, and that He thinks they are beautiful. Pray with them
      that they will see the truth from God’s perspective. Lay hands on
      their heads and pray a blessing over them often. Pray they will
      feel loved and special and beautiful. Young
      people, and even some older ones, struggle daily with self-
      esteem because the world tells them they are “not enough…”.
      Often people that are less qualified get the job or the promotion
      or the part simply because they look good on the outside.
      Do whatever you can to help them improve their looks, within
      reason and budget, and build confidence in them by finding
      out their gifts and talents and encouraging those talents.
      Never tell someone they “shouldn’t feel that way”. Let them
      talk and listen to them. Pray for them every day that they will
      feel beautiful on the inside. That they will see themselves the
      way God sees them. That they will shine for God’s kingdom.
      And remind them that a pretty face and fit body is okay, but
      if that’s all they have, they are empty inside. They may get the
      guy, or the job, or the promotion, but it will take more than that
      to keep them. Many have never received the fathers blessing.
      If their earthly father is not around, a grandfather, or another
      trusted father figure can stand in for him. And whether a man
      is around or not, mothers pray for your kids and grandkids
      daily. Remember that
      boys also can suffer low self-esteem. They may just be
      better at covering it up.

  8. Thank you so much! You have no idea how much I need reminders like this!!! Thank You! I am going to print this and read it often!!!!

  9. Thank you so much. My friend posted this on Facebook and I came across it today. I have been feeling down about myself a lot lately. I have been doing everything I can to lose weight and look pretty, I have never felt like I was worth anything. But reading this reminded me why I am here, it reminded me that I am beautiful, even though doubt clouds it every now and then. It reminded me God made me who I am and that I’m perfect in his eyes. Thank you so much. God bless you.

    1. I struggle with how I look daily but have to remind myself of God’s truth and His words to me. You are worth so much Cate and I will be praying for you to be reminded that. God bless you and your walk–Hopefully you will continue to check my blogs or subscribe below. I pray you seek Christ in all you do!

  10. Sometimes is hard to think your perfect when everyone tells you your ugly and when everyone tells you you are a loner but when I think of God it makes me feel worth it but I hate it when they keep reminding me I ain’t worth it just cause I ain’t pretty enough

    1. I’ve been told that by the world, by boys and by girls. However continually I am reminded to find my worth in Christ and I pray you Lilibeth will continue to search for your worth in what HE says and His truth. Hopefully you will continue to check my blogs or subscribe below 🙂

  11. I got an email saying that you ‘liked’ the comment I made earlier. And along with that was a comment saying I should check out your blog, because I might like it as much as you liked my comment. I have been through ALL of the comments three times, and mine is no longer here. :-/ Why?? I didn’t say anything BAD or WRONG or INSULTING. I DID read the blog post that these comments follow, and I’m sure all of your other blog posts are good, too. But no, if my comment needed to be deleted (and I’m sure this one will be, too), I will move on and just wish you well. God bless you.

    1. I’m sorry I’ve super confused I’ve been replying to a lot I don’t know what happened!!! Try resending it, I post all my comments even bad ones and insulting ones I had one on this article earlier that was bad. I don’t know how to fully work this site yet hahaha I’m new! God bless!

  12. This was very helpful to me in very meany ways as a teenage girl I would just like to tell u you are a inspiration to me how you let God use you through your talents I just want to say thank you

  13. This is so beautiful. I wish this article or website was around when I was in my middle school struggling to see pass my insecurities and pass the one boy who laughed at me and called me ugly. However, I am so grateful that this website is around now for those who are struggling to see the beauty that is within. Please keep making more blog post and encourage young girls in our generation.

    1. I had boys tell me I was ugly in middle school and it still brings back insecurities. That’s actually why I created this website–and it brings me joy to know theres girls with similar testimony as me praying for the next generation of women of faith. Amanda, I am so glad you enjoyed this website and I pray you share with young girls who need it. God bless

  14. i love this. im a senior in high school and it’s so so hard! i started a sophomore girls Bible study at school and today I am going to read this and focus on this subject. It is SO important. I remember someone told me I was fat (I wasn’t) and stopped eating for 2 months straight. had small things here and there but once a week. Grace thank you for this!!

    1. I struggled with over dieting due to someone talking about my weight as well Emily! Thank you for your ministry to younger girls, you mean the world to them! I will be praying for your group and your walk with the Lord! God bless

  15. I’ve just found your blog Grace and it’s exactly what I needed to hear! I just started high school and lately I’ve been having insecurities basically about everything. Thanking you for writing what I need to hear, God is definitely using you in an amazing, beautiful way 🙂

  16. I just came across your blog from a friend and this is already the most encouraging and inspiring beautiful written blog i have ever read. Im a senior in high school and I have always struggled really bad with body image having being picked on and bullied and this article literally brought me to tears. It was just the encouragment i needed. God has given you an amazing gift to write like this and i love seeing sisters in christ write about their struggles and experiences and what people go through in life truthfully and through godly eyes. Thank you and im so so excited to keep reading the rest of your blog

    1. Wow I am so glad you enjoyed! I know you commented earlier as well on another post so it makes me so happy you found truth in other articles as well! I was picked on a lot growing up and can relate but once I found my worth in Christ the rest didn’t matter God bless new friend 🙂

  17. This is so touching and inspiring! I love this. Keep doing what you are doing…you are making a mark in this world for Him. You are impacting people’s lives and manifesting inspiration in young women all over the world. Stay strong in your faith, girl!

    Love from Canada,
    Hannah P.

  18. Thank you very much! I apologise with you if I’m not writing good enough, I’m a Spanish girl. But I read all this article and it’s really helped me, I cried because is exactly how I feel myself almost everyday. Sometimes I’ve nightmares and sometimes I don’t feel to enough to my boyfriend, and sometimes I asked my self… what is He doing having a relationship with me? Anyway is not easy… but I know God loves me too much. Thank you very much

    1. Wow this comment made my night! Your english is very good actually! I pray you focus on your worth in God, your boyfriend is lucky to have you in his life, never forget that. God bless and I pray your relationship is rooted in Christ!

  19. This is beautiful! Thank you for writing it- these words are healing and so good. I hate when other people do this because it feels like self promotion and like they’re using other people’s platforms for themselves, but I can’t help but think of this song of mine based on the same concept- God’s response to women as they look in the mirror. It’s called “You’re Mine”, too which is how you signed this! Anyhow, thought you might enjoy it. It’s on iTunes under by name if you wanna check out. Grace and peace, sister. Keep writing the good stuff.

  20. You are so so so blessed to be able to write like this, God defiantly speaks through you girl!!! This meant so so much to me, I am so insecure and came across this last week! I’ve already re-read it so many times, I love it so much. I have struggled with the oncomings of an eating disorder. I was wondering if you could do a blog post talking about eating disorders/insecurities maybe that you have dealt with. I remember reading on a blog how you used to do extreme work outs and such & was just wondering if you would be willing to talk more about that. I have read all your blogs and love them so so so much!!!! I followed you on social media and when u replied to me on twitter it made me so so happy. Thank you.

    1. I will most certainly do one in the future thanks so much for that suggestion I love suggestions!! 🙂 God bless you and I pray you find your worth in what the Lord thinks you! You sound like a sweet girl!

  21. Thank you so much for saying what needed to be said and what so many women needed to hear. It’s so hard to feel confident in the world today but reminders like this make it easier. I know that I came across your article right when I needed it most, and it’s so beautifully written. I love it–it helps me feel my individual worth in God’s eyes and in a larger perspective, I’m sure it does the same for others as well. Thank you.

  22. Thank you for sharing this wonderful words.. I read it with tear..
    I’m a girl who always thought I’m ugly because I’ve got yellowish eyes..I don’t know if I’m fully cured from jaundice.. I had it since I was a child.. Because of that I feel so ugly I have a hard time making eye contacts with people .. Some people ask me why my eyes are yellow.. I went to the doctor and he told it was normal. Sometimes I cry at night ..I pray but that doesn’t seems to work.. I lose my self esteem my confident level is zero because of that and sometimes I feel like my boyfriend always get angry because I look yellow and ugly . it breaks my heart sometimes I just want to die .

    1. Chera wow yellow eyes actually to me sound beautiful! I’m jealous–how unique. We always want what we can’t have. I pray you find your worth in your Creator. He makes no mistakes, and that includes the moment He breathed life into you and gave you your unique yellow eyes. God bless and praying for you to remember that new friend! <3 Rest in His truth not the lies you believe when you look in the mirror

      1. Thanks a lot a friend of mine told me u are not very good looking I was really sad that day than my cousin told me to go to this website so I was really happy to read and I told all my friends about this

  23. Reblogged this on Simple Thoughts and commented:
    Sometimes I think about this all too often, I find my thoughts being consumed by this one thing, this one image. It’s a part of the past, present and future. Something that can’t be fixed but doesn’t need to be dwelled upon. We are beautiful. We were made for purpose.

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