So you met a cute guy…congratulations! And he somehow managed to get your number as well. Maybe he did the sneaky “take this picture and send it to me” tactic in order to get your number. Maybe he left a note with his number written like scribble scratch in order for you to text him. Maybe he just walked up to you and asked for your number. Maybe you asked for his number. However you go it, you texted a cute boy you like and are now anxiously waiting for a text back.

As every minute passes of him not replying to your text, you insecurities grow. “He hates me.” “He is not replying cause I’m not cool enough for him.” “He isn’t responding because I’m not hot enough for him.” “If only I looked like Beyonce, I would not have to wait four hours for one text message reply.”

Okay stop that right there girlfriend. I bet Beyonce at one point in her life was anxiously waiting a boy to text her back. I bet even Beyonce once had a boy not text her back.

See every minute you worry about a stupid text, you are letting a boy control your life, emotions, and you idolize him. Somehow a stupid reply has determined whether or not you are having a good day or bad day. This stupid text has controlled how pretty you feel. This stupid text has controlled how happy you are or how sad you are. This stupid text has controlled your mind. Your thoughts are being controlled by one boy who does not deserve your heart unless he proves himself worthy. Your feelings are controlled by a boy who possibly simply forgot to text back.

We focus so often on things of this world, and let one text message or lack of one dictate our day when our day should be focused on praising the one who created us– not the hot boy we met that Friday night.

I know that is easier said then done, but imagine how happier you would be if you realized your worth isn’t from if that hot guy replied, but it came from the way your Almighty Father views you?

I get that that is cheesy to say. “Focus on God not a boy!!” However it is so true. I look at how many times in my life I have let a boy and his words control my view on myself. I so often times forgot boys don’t judge my worth. I so often forget that my worth is not ever changing. I forgot the one who designed the stars, and created the sea, is the one who created my worth.

This world is empty and so is the “hey what’s up” text message– even if it is from a hot boy. One day you will find a man who pushes you closer to Christ, and makes you a better person. He won’t ever leave you doubtful of where you stand in his eyes. One day you will find a man like Jesus, and if he forgets to respond you won’t freak out, because you are confident that his love for you is similar to Christ’s love for you.

Seek Christ, His love, and let His view on your worth determine your emotions–not a reply from a boy whose phone may have just died.

Matthew 6:33– “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”

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Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. I love your posts and how truly relatable they are for all girls! I am currently planning an event for the girls in the youth group that I help lead titled “Worthy” and would love to share your words with them! Keep sharing the gift that God has given you! 😊❤️

    1. Thank you for the ministry you do Tricia for young girls! You are building the Kingdom and I thank you my sister! Feel free to direct them to this site, use my blogs with the girls, and tell them about “The Enough Movement” 🙂 Hopefully you will continue to check my blogs or subscribe below to get updates!

  2. YOU ARE AMAZING!!! I have spent the past 2 hours reading your posts!!!! they have all made me open my eyes to the greater things in life!! this one hit me, I have been waiting for a reply from this guy, and it has changed me and what I think about myself, but this made me realize that I shouldn’t let some boy change me. I need to focus on Jesus!! thank you for spreading God’s word & speaking the truth in life!!! Keep on being you girl 🙂
    thank you again!!!

    1. I am so glad you told me this–this was an encouragement very needed right now. God bless you and keep spreading the news of our glorious Father’s love you are building the Kingdom. (also his loss, the guy who’s not replying, you sound beautiful my dear) God bless new friend 🙂

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