Originally posted by me here:


When I turned twelve, I developed my first crush. It was on a guy named Zac Efron, and the moment I looked in his eyes as he sang the “Start of Something New,” I knew he was one attractive man. His shaggy brown hair, biceps, blue eyes, and voice captured my attention and heart. I thought he was attractive.

Starting in high school, I began to call any guy wearing a sport’s uniform attractive. If he played basketball and had brown eyes, I was sold. If he was on the football team, done deal.

And in college, suddenly the attractive guy became the dadbod, overly confident frat boy, who drives a nice car. Still don’t understand why this is even a thing. However, I knew he could be the one if he wore top-tier letters and was outgoing.

I had a realization the other day that maybe I was wrong. My whole life I have been allowing myself to admire men for their looks and worldly possessions. I have forgotten what makes a man actually attractive. Why do I and other girls allow ourselves to admire guys who are by no means attractive?

See, my heart knows what an attractive guy actually looks like. He’s the guy who smiles lots, loves hard, tips the waiter well, and prays before his meal. Simply by being in the presence of an actual attractive guy makes everyone feel the love of Christ. He’s attractive if he makes you belly-laugh and dance with no music — all while challenging you to grow daily into the person the Creator intended for you to be.

See, an attractive guy doesn’t necessarily have Hollywood fame, a football jersey, or a fraternity label. He may not have a six-pack of abs and perfectly tanned skin. Forget the blue eyes, and search for something more in a guy than a big ego and a ten on the “hot scale.”

At the end of the day, at least in my opinion, the guy I fall in love with needs to look like Jesus. What I want to see looking back at me on my wedding day is a guy whose arms are always reach out to help others, not necessarily the ones always lifting at the gym. His legs will go where the Lord tells him to go — they may not always be perfectly toned. His eyes look for the good in others and not on things of the world. His heart should be compassionate and loving to all people, not just me. And his mouth should speak kind words and life into everyone he encounters, never used for destruction. He should admire my desire for purity, and seek it himself as well till marriage. He should push me closer to Christ, instead of coming in between God and me.

The guy who I fall in love with should have an obvious bursting love for the Creator, so that all those who know him also know their Savior. He is the same guy Friday night as he is in the church pew on Sunday. He makes you cry only tears of joy. And when he messes up, he admits it, and asks for grace.

To the struggling Christian guy out there who looks like Jesus: I’m sorry. I’m sorry you feel overlooked and unwanted and that “nice guys finish last.” But I promise girls will feel stupid for letting the nice guy get overlooked. She will regret it. You will find a girl who seeks Christ as much as you, and I challenge you to wait for what you deserve. Thank you for following Christ’s lead.

To the girl who falls for the only physically attractive guys and the guys with worldly possessions: you will realize soon that looks fade. One day the only thing left in your significant other will be his heart, eyes, and personality. If he can’t make you smile, laugh, and challenge you to be a better person, then I promise you won’t be happy for a lifetime.

You are worth more than the guy who can get three hundred likes on shirtless pictures, but can’t seem to ever appreciate you. You deserve someone who looks like Jesus, walks like Him, and encourages you throughout your lifetime. Wait for that kind of guy dear one — and never settle. A guy with an attractive heart is not out of your league. He is waiting for you, but the real question is, are you waiting for him?


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Written by Grace Valentine

I love Jesus, diet coke and sunflowers. I wish I lived in the mountains, but love the two states I call home--Louisiana and Texas. I can watch Criminal Minds all day and dream of one day owning an ice cream truck for fun. However, my main goal in life is that more girls will realize the worth they have through Christ Jesus--and with Him and Him only we are enough.


  1. This speaks so much truth! As does the rest of the blog! This is one of my favorite blogs I have found, so keep up the good work 🙂

  2. Reading this made me smile. It’s given me confidence that I am young and when the right time comes, The Lord will put a man like that into my life when I am ready.

  3. You are an amazing young woman and a great inspiration for all those around you. It took me a long time to realize that everything you have stated rings utterly true, but the right person is so worth the wait! May God continue to bless you in all of your endeavors.

  4. I love it the most when you say “he is the same guy Friday nights as he is in the church pew on Sunday.” I think some people love God lots and are very strong in their faith but don’t really carry it out in their normal everyday lives. Even I sometimes need to remember that God is part of your whole so you want to be a walking model/figure of him. Know matter the person or place to always show gods love to everyone and let them see him through us and to change for anyone! Thanks for reminding me to pray everyday for the man God wants me to marry.

    1. Emma I am so glad you enjoyed this posts and found truth in it! This article was hard for me to listen to, and I am so glad what I needed to hear you needed to hear as well! You seem like a woman chasing Christ, and I will pray for your walk with Him and the man He has prepared for you. God bless!

  5. Beautifully written. Wish all young girls could know their worth and wait for the Christian man God has waiting for them! Just curious though- do you know the couple in the article photo?

    1. Yes I do, well I know the girl! Her name is Ashley and we went to summer camp together growing up, the couple seems to be such an example of Christian values which is why I used them. God bless thanks for reading Holly!

      1. That’s so neat!! I actually go to church where the guy’s dad is the Pastor!! Small world! Again great article!

  6. This is wonderful. I married for the first time at 41 years old… and I married the man you have described… except he does have the most amazing blue eyes. 😉 He was so worth the wait, and I can see my heavenly Father’s perfect plan in bringing us together. This type of man does exist. I, too, am sorry for the ones I overlooked, but I see now that I was being saved for this man. Thank you for writing this!! 🙂

  7. As a Christian man who consistently gets brushed aside by the women and others whom he shows love and compassion to, thank you for taking the time to write and post this. The right kind of motivation is hard to find in this modern world of ours. It is reassuring and refreshing to be reminded that not everybody is blind to true quality. I’ll be sure to share this with anyone else who could benefit from reading it. Keep up what you’re doing. God bless.

    1. Zach I’m so glad you read and felt encouraged! As a girl, I know how it feels to be brushed too! Here’s to both of our genders working towards realizing what is beauty. God bless

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